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my boyfriends in jail
my boyfriends in jail and we don't know when he'll get out yet it could be anytime from this week til january.i miss him and he got arrested halloween night. lately he's been telling me he expects me to cheat on him although i won't but he expects me to since i'm in the real world and he's in jail. and i told him i won't and i really won't and we don't love eachother. but lately i feel like he doesn't wanna be with me ut im scared to bring it up while we're talking on the phone. i aslso don't know how to bring i up. i need some help with how to start the subject please.
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dis regard this because i read the question wrong
if you dont want to be with him dont be with him and dont let your fears blind you. just tell him say hey i dont think we should be togeather. what more can you say. i understand hes in jail but he put his self there not you so its not your fault and you have nothing to feel guilty over. if something happens afterwards to worsen his situation its still not your fault
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Well, do you really want to date an inmate?
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well, when your on the phone with him and he starts bringing up the whole "Your gunna cheat on me" deal, just say something like What dont you understand, i hae been with you for (so and so) amount fo time period and im with you now..if i was going to cheat on you dont you think i would have broken up with you?..you should know im not the type of person to do that, i care about you wayy tooo much to do that. once i told my boyfriend that he was okay (
hope i helped Good Luck!(=
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I went through the EXACT same thing. My ex boyfriend got locked up back in March and it was a strain on our relationship considering I already wanted to end it with him and he felt like shit when I said I didnt want to be with him when he was in jail because he thought it was for that very reason, which it wasnt. Basically, just say to him "How are things with us" He will then respond good/bad. Then proceed to ask him "Ill hang in there with this relationship if you want me to.. if you dont want me to continue dating you then tell me" Make sure he knows that youre serious about staying with him and ask if he feels its necessary or if his feelings have changed. That should be all thats needed to be said. Most likely he still wants to be with you. Hes just probably down about being in jail. The guy I'm in love with now, realized he loved me when he was locked up, becuase he was able to be away from me and it showed him how much he missed me and cared about me and wanted to do better for me. Sad to say but jail is a good learning experiance and it really helps sort out feelings. Good luck, and I'm sure everyting will work out for the best :)
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