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Should I keep being friends with her?
I have been friends with this girl, Diane, for two years. We were best friends, but then she did many horrible things to me and we got in a fight. I didn't talk to her for three months. All that happened was she cussed me out twice for no reason in those three months after doing some other things. But for some crazy reason, I took her back as a friend. She broke up with this kid, Michael, and I was talking to him on IM because we were sort of friends. He was saying stuff like, "Oh, she's talking to a bunch of other people. She doesn't have time for us." And I said, "No, she's only talking to one person. This guy named Daniel from New Jersey." And he says, "Does she like him?" So Diane was on and I IMed her and said, "Do you like Daniel?" And she said, "Yes..." So I copied the conversation back to him and he said, "Did he like her why she was going out with me? Can you ask her?" And I IMed Diane again and said, "Did you like him while you were going out with Michael?" Then she said, "Uh, yeah." I felt like Michael needed to know and I didn't want to lie since he told me to ask her and I copied my conversation with Diane to him. He started getting really upset. He got so upset that I felt like crying myself. A few minutes later, Diane signed off. Normally she says bye and stuff, but this time she had just suddenly signed off. Almost ten minutes later, Michael said, "Ok, I'm so sorry. I told her. I copied my conversation with you to her and she said that she had to go and signed off." Now she's mad at me again. Lately she has been very rude to me and some other girls for no reason. I still have not forgiven her completely for what she did to me in the past. Did I do the right thing? Should I apologize or do I just let her go as a friend?
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You both did the right thing, and the wrong thing. You did the right thing in letting him know what was going on and giving him the truth, and not lying to him. But you did the wrong thing by taking something SHE said to you personally probably so nobody else could see ( hence, IM ) and you just took it and showed it to someone she probably didn't want reading it. That'd sort of be like, you saying you like this guy, and her taking it and showing the conversation to him. Upsetting, huh?
I would go up to her and apologize for doing that, you know it's wrong and everything, but you didn't want to lie to Michael, either. You've both now have done your bad things to eachother, so if she's willing to forgive and forget like you've done, you'd really like to try and be friends again.
If she throws a huge drama-fit over the whole situation like she already seems to be doing, then she might not be worth becoming friends with again. You don't need all this fighting and drama in your life, and feeling guilty all the time and worrying if what YOU did was the right thing or not.
But if she tries to work on the friendship, and apologizes for her past actions also, this shows she really want to make an effort, so both of you must try to be good friends towards eachother and see where it goes. Friends DO give eachother chances again, but there's only a certain amount a friend can go.
I hope I helped.
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well you should definatly appologize, because it obviously upset her.
as for the let her go part, that should come after the appology.
Depending on how she recieves it. If she forgives you, work on it, try and be friends.
If she is a bitch about it, move on.
DONT get angry with her though.
do not be like "well everyone copies IM's from other people and shows it blah blah" cause thats justifying it, not appologizing.
Be calm and level headed, see how that goes, and decide from there what to do with your friendship...
Good luck! Ask back if needed
Auntie Em
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