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How to break up a relationship
I know that this is immoral. I also know that this question will make me sound like a selfish, spoilt brat.
I have a consciense, I have a personal faith and I may or may not act on the information you give me.
It's taken me alot of wrangling with myself to even ask this question:
What is the best way to break up a new relationship between a pair of sixteen yearolds without spreading malicious gossip.
Gentle and subtle is what I'm going for here.
I like them both but I can't let this happen because if I don't tell him how I feel I might never see him again after this coming July. I can't tell him while he's going out with her.
Thankyou for any advice you can give me. It's much appreciated.
(NB F/16)
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ok you have no right to break up any relationship. if the person wanted to be with you then he would. how would you like it if someone did that to you.
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tell him how you feel....that might even break them up lol.
if not than umm...flirt with him in front of her...alot....lol...im pretty sure she wouldn't like that....but she probably wouldnt like you much after that either.
or you could always tell him you saw her with another guy or vice-a-versa
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You can tell him while he is going out with her. Sure, it isn't the best thing to do, but it is certainly more decent and honorable then attempting to break them up however 'gently'. Be honest and simple and say "I know you are with someone, but I just need to tell you I've had these feelings for you for ages and I'm afraid I'll never see you again."
That is honest, non-bitchy, and straightforward. It still puts him in a tough place, but if you stop there and just let him respond you might find he can put your fears to rest, or tell you just as frankly that he isn't interested.
There really isn't any other approach for a decent human being to take, besides not saying anything at all.
A few facts of life dear:
Nothing you do will change what to people feel for one another. You can't 'break them up'. You can be a vicious bitch and make their lives unpleasant, but if they don't want to break up, you will fail. They will either breakup because they choose to, or not.
July is a long ways away. Your feelings might change, or even more likely, their relationship might change.
There is no reason why you cannot stay in contact with this guy beyond July. Unless he is moving to a third world country with no communication, you can still speak to him. It will be harder, but if he is leaving, it will be harder whether he knows about you feelings or not.
And lastly, having the desire to break up a couple doesn't make you a bad person, being jealous and wanting someone doesn't make you a bad person. However, acting on those feelings does!
Whatever you do, do it with respect for all parties involved.
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