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Being Excluded...
As much as i love my best freind, kate, i cant help think shes trying to leave me out of groups,For example: one day kate got together with one of my other close freinds Lexy, and then next day in school they were bragging about what a great time they had, without me, and they had all these inside jokes and whatnot. Also kate is into shows that i dont watch, and a good percent of my freinds watch the same shows as her and so in school shell keep bringing up the episodes (which i dont care) but then when i try to change the subject, kate will ignore me and keep going. This may not seem like your typical problem and i know its studpid to get mad about, but its been going on for quite some time, and quite frankly, im sick of it. I need advice badly!
-jan
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This is a tough one, Jan. In my opinion, she may be completely oblivious to the fact that she's hurting you, then again, she could be sending you those signals in hope that you take the hint. (That she doesn't really want to be around you)
Regardless, take her aside sometime, like after school and speak with her. Do this face to face so that she's more inclined to be honest with you. It's important not to go into a conversation like this feeling bad or angry, instead take some time before going into it and gather your thoughts.
Tell her how you feel, give her an example of how you feel like she's excluding you. It's important in a situation like this to use more "I" statements than "You" statements, because then you'll sound less accusatory. Don't accuse her of excluding you, just tell her about how you've been feeling recently and go from there.
If she is your friend, she'll listen and hopefully you guys can find some common ground...
I hope this helps...
(Wanna talk more? Please e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)
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