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Feedback to your answer on struggling w/abusive relationship
Hi. Thanks for your answer to my dilema. I guess I'd like to elaborate on some things. We are both in therapy together and I am also in therapy individually. He is advising both of us to make changes, no just me. He has told me that he also believes my wife is depressed and should see a therapist by herself also. The therapist is good (at least i think). The problem is 1) she won't agree to this, or at least is dragging her feet about it and 2) in couples session she is very good at agreeing with the therapist and seems to want to change but everything that was said in the session is forgotten by her in the next day or two after meeting with the therapist. Seems like I'm the only one working at it. Thanks again for the advice and any further thoughts you might have.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
After being married for 31 years I can tell you for certain that both of you have to want to work on it.
One person alone, unfortunately can't get much accomplished. You will have to make her understand somehow that she has to make an effort.
I don't know any good way for you to do that. Sure wish I did. You could tell her its over if she doesn't seek some medical help...that could backfire though so you don't want to do that unless you are serious.
She does have to give you the respect you deserve for taking care of the family by working and paying the bills. She has to take care of your home and your children. That is after all doing her part. Doing her share.
I do wish you luck and hope so much it works out for you. Right now concentrate on getting her some attention for possible depression. That may make all the difference in the world. See what happens next.
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