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How to dump someone without hurting him?
The more I know my boyfriend, the more I feel he and I aren't compatible at all. I don't think this relationship will work out, so I want to end it. The problem is, my boyfriend is still passionately in love with me. I don't want to hurt him. Although I no longer have romantic feelings for him, I still regard him as my close friend. What can I do? How to dump someone without hurting him?
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Oh jeeze,
I had to do this to someone just last weekend. I didn't like him in that way.
So, I told him that I just want to be friends and that I asked him out to make him happy and that was my mistake.
But he on the other hand, got really mad at me and his friends are mad at me but he is still talking to me.
If he is a good person I'm pretty sure he'll be fine with your decision especially since he likes you a lot.
So, good luck.
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mainly, just be nice about it.
tell him you don't like where things are heading & you feel you need to take a break, and you never know, you guys may get back together.
just don't be rude about it & tell him how you feel about this breaking up deal. don't let him think that you hate him, or like someone else, it might only lead to pain.
good luck
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I know you don't want to hurt him, but he's going to at least get hurt a little, no matter how nicely you put it or anything.
You just have to sit down with him or talk to him over the internet ( or write a letter, whatever makes you feel most comfortable doing it ), and just explain to him,"I think you're a really great guy and everything, but as time has progressed and I've gotten to know you better, the vibes I get from you and me are that more of a friendly kind than a boyfriend one. I just think we'd be better friends then boyfriend & girlfriend. And I know you're probably really mad and everything right now, so I'll just leave you alone for a bit, but if after awhile you'd want to try and be friends with me, I'd really like that alot." Or something similiar to that. Just explain to him your feelings and how you hope you two can remain friends over time, but respect his feelings and give him some time to cool down and adjust and everything, cause he's probably not going to want to be friends right away.
Just don't stay with him or anything, cause that'll hurt twice as much in the end if he ever found out it was all pity and lies since practically the whole relationship you two had, and you two have to break up at some point anyways, so better now, then later.
So, hopefully over time, ( like I said yes, he'll be hurt ) but he'll be glad to know you were honest with him instead of just staying with him to make him happy, and over time, he'll be able to get over it and move on, just as you will, and hopefully a good friendship will come from this.
I hope I helped.
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I know that this is probably not what you want to hear, but there isn't really a way to break up with him that won't hurt him. There are ways to break up with someone that are better than other ways, though. I'll explain the dos and don'ts. You probably know them already, but I'll say them anyway.
DO NOT stay with him. If you keep having a relationship with someone you don't have feelings for, it will only hurt them more in the end.
DO NOT cheat on him. That's just inconsiderate.
DO NOT make someone else break up with him for you. If you want to break up with him, do it yourself. You owe him that much. Also, it's best to do it in person, rather than on the phone or over the computer.
When you break up with him, it's best that no one else is around and that he isn't in a bad mood. (angry, sad, stressed, etc.) You could say something like this:
"______, (his name) I really don't think this can work out. I just don't feel the same way about you as you feel about me. You deserve someone who loves (or likes) you as much as you love (or like) her. I'm sorry, and I hope that we can still be friends."
I'll be honest; Yes, he will probably be hurt. But now that he knows how you feel about him, he can move on and find someone who really loves him, and you can do the same.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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