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sex at 14! good or bad?? help me
yeah I ihave a new bf!
I love him a lot. and the other day were talking and he brought up the subject of how far have you ever gona with a guy. I told him just making out!
and he is 16.I am 14!
but I would expect him to e more mature but he has had a blow job hand job and been with a girl naked but didnt have sex. I love him like he loves me!
we met at an amusement park[knotts berry farm]
and we hav been going out for a week! but have been friends longer! so i am not a slut!
I felt a little jealous when he tole me that a girl did that and beat me to it!
well the thing that sucks is i am going with him to a party on saturday and his dad heard a rumor of him getting a girl pregnant so he got a pack of condems. and my mom knows we are going out and she wouldnt care if we happened to have sex!
but i am thinking if it is good thing!
so should i have sex??
pleasehelp me!
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I don't think you should. I mean first of all, you are only fourteen, and even though all teenagers sit there thinking,"Oh I got a condom, I'm good to go!" Well, condoms can break. That's half the reason there's so many teenage pregnancies. And then the rest who think they're being smart go,"Oh, well then I'll use two! Double the protection!" Hehe, no. Using two causes friction between the rubber and causes holes in there which sperm'll then leak through and you could wind up with a kid then, too.
And don't forget all the possible diseases and things you can catch, and it's just way too soon. Like I said, you're just fourteen. Kids are way too young to be thinking of this stuff, in my opinion. I would save it for someone who you love, and I mean REALLY love. And I know you say you love him and everything, but even then. Wait for someone you know you're like madly in love with, and is going to be sticking around for a good while. Some guys tell the girl they love them, have sex, and then awhile later they break up, and the girl regrets it.
It sounds to me like he's trying to guilt you into this or something. Like,"Another girl almost beat you to it! Are you going to let that happen?!" As if to convince you to do it and be the first one, which is totally messed up. Plus, you two have only been dating for what, a week, you said? Yes, you've been friends for alot longer, but that was just friends. This is dating, a whole nother game. Whenever two people have sex, they're never usually friends. They're so many more feelings involved and everything. Plus, you must be 100% ready pyshically and mentally, and I bet you aren't. Most fourteens aren't whenever they're thinking about having sex and everything.
I mean, I know you're like "Oh, alrighty!" cause your parents and everything don't care, but I think they'll start to care and you and your boyfriend both whenever you might have a big baby bump growing out of your stomach. If the boyfriend would ever even stick around for that, most don't.
I'm not saying you're definetley going to get pregnant, but it's still a huge possibility, not to mention just one big huge regret.
Like I said, wait for real love, wait for the right time, wait for whenever you're completely and fully ready psyhically and mentally, wait for a lot more years.
I hope I helped.
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wow slow down..
uve only been going out 4 a week
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No offense, but at 14 you probably don't have enough experience to know whether you are in love or not. Your line about "I love him like he loves me" sounds somewhat naive...I can remember when I was his age, most guys didn't love anyone...they were just out for sex.
This guy sounds like he's just another teenager out to try to get laid, and he is trying to guilt you into having sex by saying "OMG this other girl did this and that!" Your feeling jealous is probably what he intended, hoping you would 'prove your love' to him by outdoing this other 'mystery girl'.
And when his dad heard a rumor about his son getting a girl pregnant, he just hands him a box of condoms? Either this whole post is a scam for laughs, or his family is highly dysfunctional. My father would have slapped me upside the head a few times and grounded me until my next birthday for getting a girl pregnant, and then demanded I do right by this other girl. And NM that your mother doesn't seem to care that you are having sex at 14, so I hope that YOU do.
No, you shouldn't have sex. You think this guy really loves you? Tell him you dont want to have sex for, lets say, 2 more years. If he REALLY loves you he might be disappointed but he would stay with you...THATS love. But my guess is that doing this would seriously disrupt his plans for getting you in the sack, and he would simply go looking for someone easier to get into bed. I'm serious, if you think he loves you tell him 'no' and see what happens...you'll get the answer as to whether this is love, or just another case of naive teenage lust.
My gut tells me you are going to have to learn the hard way like 99% of people do, so this whole posting will probably be moot in the end.
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Don't.
Just don't.
You'll regret it. It doesn't matter if your mom or his dad doesn't care, it matters that you've only been going out with this guy for a week. You need to know this guy on a more personal level, and make sure that you won't feel like you regretted losing your virginity to someone that wasn't worth it.
I hope I helped.
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Sex again? come on! SEX is Zero in the earlier age(Can bring you nothing except Lust fullfillment, Pregnanciy, Married by accident)! Male+Female=SEX?!?!?!. Are you looking a sex partner for having fun or looking a sex partner as a respectfull couple that you both doing it in the name of religion and Commitment (married, engage)?
it's normal for teenagers to exploring something new, something Sweet, something Taboo and restricted by the common people! but. please think again, see the real fact!
9Dayz ^_^"
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umm let me think about it: no you should not have sex.
You say hes not being mature, but your not being mature either just so you know. Having sex because your upset that someone beat you to it doesnt mean your ready to have sex. And i can garuntee your mom will be pissed to find out that you are plannin on having sex at the age of 14.
Your acting like sex is some kind of reward you get for going out with him. Its not and your going to get over that. What you have for him is lust its not love your only 14 and your moving into this relationship way to fast.
You need to get over the fact that hes already had sex with someone else and grow up. If he almost got a girl pregnant before that pretty bad. what happens if he gets you pregnant? Dont say it cant happen because trust me hun it can. You cant support a kid and neither can he.
-- You said that he didnt have sex with this girl but how did his dad hear that he almost got her pregnant. Your facts dont match up.
kim;)
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