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I wanna know if I'm rreally in love.
Well I am 15 and in highschool. I've been with my boyfriend a little over 7 months. In the way beginning when we first met... we had minni crushes on eachother...and when we were about to get closer a girl got in between and he liked her... that didn't work out so it was about us again. Then another girl came in between and he actually went out with her. When that didn't work out it was about us again. I don't know why i kept going back to him but it ended up with us going out. I felt like a rebound for the longest time but i just really liked him. Now he tells me how he can never be attracted to anyone and he truly loves me. He thinks we will actually get married and what not. I on the other hand don't think so we are only in highschool. I'm just confused about this whole thing...Was I sprt of a rebound? Also I read his texts once in awhile when i know i shouldnt but hes always texting girls... and he goes far away on church retreats and camp and what not and i fear that girls are all over him. He talks good to these girls like he misses them and what not. Whats going on here in our relationship?
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apparently i know that yooh probably don't wanna hear this but i know that yooh may love him a lot and i understand that but if yooh feel like he has other girls on the side i'd dump him anyways even if i really love him. i feel lk its better to let go den get even moh hurt.
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Well, when it comes to love i've BeenThereB4. I dated a guy who had 5 other girls on the side and he claimed he loved me but, he really didn't. I Loved him with all my heart and thought we would get married but, that all changed. So shortly after I've had enough of depression and I left. The best thing for you to do without getting hurt is to move on. Because if he said he loved you but, liked another girl and left you. Then you took him back. Now he know you are broken down like an old pair of converse and he''l do it again
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In the beginning he may have just been confused about what he wanted. Shame on him for tossing your heart around like that and confusing you. But shame on you for going back to him after he done it the first time. Apparently it worked out in the end, but in the future if a similar problem occurs, please take the time to really think if it's worth getting hurt over. I'm sure the answer will be no, it's not. You did appear to be a rebound girl in the beginning, however the past is unimportant. The future is what you need to ponder on, and if he's going to do it again.
Some guys are just flirts. He may love you with all of his heart, he may want to get married, and I mean hey, the boy may even be obsessed. But in the end, guys will be guys and they will talk to girls. There isn't much we can do about it, except to just deal. it can be hard, and if bothers you so much, talk to him about it. You guys are now in a relationship, and if you guys are truely in love, these things shouldn't be taken lightly. I suggest sit back and think really hard on what your heart and your head are telling you. Take into account both, because both will play major roles in the fate of your relationship with this boy.
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Hi,
Whether you're really in love with this guy can only be answered by you. It seems you may be in love with him, but I'm not sure if it's teen love or a love that lasts. Only time can tell.
However, I think the real question to ask is whether he's REALLY in love with you? From what you've explained, I think you're a sensible girl who knows deep down that this guy is probably a ladies' man. His text messages are highly suspicious. It's inappropriate to be textig lots of girls and saying he misses them when he's supposed to be with you!
I think you should ditch him. He's left you for other girls before, he'll do it again. You deserve better than him and you know to show him that. If you keep putting up with his behaviour, then you'll be a doormat for the rest of your life.
Also, you must remember, you're only 15! You're both so young and still have a lot ahead of you, so perhaps you shouldn't have big expectations of him. Then again, he's not helping when he tells you he will marry you! I think the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to him.
Perhaps, mention that you've seen the texts and tell him to be honest with you. Overall though, I think you can do better and I think that one day, when you truly meet "THE ONE", you will look back at this guy and laugh, and you'll wonder why you wasted even a second on him!
So be bold and brave and tell him to go!
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wow this sounds exactly like a problem with a guy i had & actually i was a year younger than you.
sometimes certain guys have this, almost mesmorizing effect on us. its like he knows exactly what to say, and when to say it. so he makes you want to keep going back to him.
me & this guy dated for 10 months, and he was a big flirt behind my back. i really loved him, i even gave him my virginity.
then one month he went away to football camp & came back as a different person, he never really called me. so i got brave & went out one night & actually met a great guy. well that guy i met went to the movies one night & just happened to see my current boyfriend out with another girl. & come to find out, that wasn't the first time he had cheated on me.
i was heartbroken & i don't want you to be either.
now i'm not saying that this guy is just like my ex boyfriend, but i am saying that a lot of guys are the same, and if he's already showing signs of cheating on you, then he probably is cheating on you.
if you feel like you don't love him, don't tell him you do.
& if you feel like you could live without him, then you probably can.
just ask yourself the same question i asked myself;
is it the guy you love, or the relationship you two have?
<33 good luck
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You are a smart girl, but we all have our weaknesses. He has been your weakness and that is why you keep taking him back. He is obviously fickle, but that does not mean you have to break up with him. As long as you are happy with the relationship as it is, then stay together. If it is going to drive you more crazy than anything else, then think about breaking it off. I sure would not believe anything he says about the long term, even if he were sincere, because as you know, it is not realistic. Don't treat him or the relationship like it is all you have, and you will be okay no matter how it goes. You are cool with or without him, so take it one day at a time.
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