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Help Me Please
Ok look this really sucks. Me and my girlfriend have been dateing for a little over 4 months and well when we first started daten it was june 14th and on july 4th i accedently got messed up and cheated on her with one of my x's but we didnt do nothin i just kissed her well when i soberd up i felt like crap so i went home and i told my girl right as soon as i got ahold of her well it killed her and me but we stayed together, now we love each other more than i can explain she is everything to me i would give anything up for her. and well now she keeps thinkin about it i have appoligized in every way possible but she is still till this day thinkin about it and we get in a argument every time she brings it up and sometimes they get pretty intense. but my question is how do i get her to forget about it i mean shes not mad at me or nuttin she just gets all tore up but how do i get her to forget it and let it go on by i know its hard to forget something like that but i mean its been almost 4 months sence it happend can someone please help me...
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You made a mistake. A very hurtful one yes, but just a mistake. You've done your best to repair the damage.
On her side there are two options. Either she is insecure and jealous still, or she uses that incident as leverage in an argument. At some point it is no longer your action that is the problem, but her response to it. If she can’t honestly forgive you, then the two of you need to break up, soon, or else suffer through this same argument over and over again.
So ask her plainly if she can forgive you or not. Don’t ask what you need to do; you’ve done everything you can. It’s up to her now. Demand an honest answer and if she says she can forgive you, explain that you don’t expect to hear about it each time she is upset anymore. She can still talk about her pain or fear of cheating if it still worries her, but the blame you have should be in the past.
It’s a fine line, and it sounds like this girl may not be able to manage it. If she can’t, you need to let her go. Continuing on this course will only torture you both and lead to a very messy break-up.
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take it from someone who knows... shell never forget and she may love you even more now then ever before but the pain of you cheatin on her will be in the back of her mind forever. i know this sounds like sucky advice but trust me when i say time heals all pain
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Tell her to stop being a girl and to forget the past.
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You shouldn't have kissed the ex. However you could have done worse.
She needs to forgive and forget but there isn't a lot you can do to help the process along. You have already apologized. You can't do it everyday of your life. She needs to accept it or unfortunately move on. You can't live your life trying to make up for what happened.
I guess what I am trying to say is that you made a mistake. You apologized. If you want the relationship to work out, she cannot be bringing it up or using it against you at every turn. And getting all teary eyed is using it against you, believe it or not.
Sit her down one more time. Tell her you are sorry but you will not be apologising for this again. It has been 4 months. She can trust you and stay in the relationship or she can not trust you and go cry elsewhere. I know it is harsh and maybe not what you want to hear but if she cannot forgive and get past it all, you have no future.
Hope it works out for you. :)
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