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My grandmother died a little while ago (last Monday, actually) and I was very close to her. Although I seem to be handling well on the outside, I'm really torn up. I can't concentrate on anything and nothing seems worth it anymore. I am usually a very good student, I took last week off and now I'm back to school. The catch up work alone is overwhelming, I have assgnments piling on top of one another. Even if I could focus on my work, which I can't, I would still have a very difficult time catching up. With my lack of motivation as a result of my grandmother's death trying to finish all my assignments seems almost impossible. Is there anything I can do to try to get back on track? Thank you in advance.
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Try talking to your teachers. Let them know that you are having a hard time focusing and catching up and see if there is anything they can do to help. Since you are typically a good student, they should understand and be willing to help you get back on track.
I also recommend grief counseling. A counselor can help you to deal with your feelings in a way that will allow you to focus when you need to and they can help with techniques for managing your life in this tough time. More importantly, you will have someone to talk to in person who understands what you are going through without being directly involved (a family member could understand, but it would be as much about them as about you which wouldn't help a whole lot).
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I'm usually a dickhead on this site, but I can actually help you with this. My grandma died last year, and I was really torn up at first, but then I put my mindset to the fact that she was older, and had lived a full life, and was no longer suffering. It really helped me cope knowing that things were better for her now, even though I would miss her. My brother however, held things in. A lot. Now, almost a year and a half after it happened, he'll still break down, and this is all because he decided to hide how he was feeling from people. So don't hold it in, if you need to talk to someone, talk to close friends, internet friends, whatever. Putting on a fake smile is probably the worst thing you can do when something like this happens.
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well try not to thiink about her so much, i know its hard but try also try talking to someone about it, think that if your grandma was still alive would she want you to be upset? i think not.
also you can maybe set aside some time like 2 hours or hwatever you need and take breaks after like 20 minutes or whatever and maybe just watch tv for like 5 minutes or change the thing your working on and go back to the other stuff later.
hope it helps, good luck. <3
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Well, I'd tell you to listen to Helena by MCR. But if you don't want to, you don't have to.
Losing a close one is very hard...I've lost my uncle because of cancer and I loved him to death. I couldn't function anymore but somehow I came around to the thought of this: at least your grandmother lived her life joyfuly and (I don't know what the cause of her death or what medical problems she had) is out of her misery with all ther physically illnesses. She's moved on and death is a natural part of life. And what about reincarnation? I think that actually happens. I bet you that a baby girl was born somewhere the exact moment your grandmother passed away. Think of her as your angel watching over you =]
As for the assigments, organize it by putting the ones you have to turn in the earliest to the ones that you can delay for a while. Take it one step at a time instead of piling it all up because that will overwhelm you and gets nothing accomplished. Do the ones that are due tomorrow tonight. The ones due the day after tomorrow--tomorrow and be a=efficent with no distractions. Although that may be hard, concentrate. Your grandmother would've loved you to carry on with your life instead of her passing away effct your life in a negative way...
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