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Major Anger Problem
okay... i do not know how to explain this.. BUT.. i do know one thing, i REALLY need to control my anger before i pound someone to death.. because thats how much anger i have inside of me... i have tried the breathing in and out, doesnt help me.. i have too much anger to actually concentrate AT ALL on that. I desperately need help or advice of ANY sort before i go too far..and i have a feeling its going to be soon...
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
Have a list of things to do when you're starting to get backed up emotionally ....
suggestions:
breathing is good even if that alone doesn't handle the problem, that'll give you a few minutes to start thinking things through
getting some water
walking
are you frustrated because something needs to be communicated or "get through" to someone, and you don't know the best way to do that?
differentiate between facts and emotions and responses - meaning, let's say someone is standing on your foot - that's a fact. the emotions in this could be various things both for you and the person - he could be doing it accidentally, or angrily, or? and you could feel various ways like angry or in pain or bored or even happy because it's a girl that you like. and your response could range from politely bringing the problem to the other person's attention, or punching them, or accepting it if you like the other person standing on your foot. see facts, emotions, and responses - these are three different areas ...
learn to percieve facts clearly, choose emotions, and above all choose responses.
oh - and ask questions.
if you keep asking the other person questions, you will both get a better understanding of what is actually happening in any situation.
and yes, do listen to what the other person has to say.
if one question doesn't work, try others. it's a valuable skill and can take practice and ingenuity.
oh - also, if expressing yourself, it often works best to make statements in terms of how you feel , as in " i feel you're crossing my boundaries when you stand on my foot ... why are you doing that? "
instead of accusational statements like " you're a stupid idiot whos standing on my f...ing foot and i will now pummell you.."
let me know if any of this helps
luyah
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Hey, so, I think you need to find a good friend to talk to and maybe they can help you with your anger a bit. Or you can join into boxing or something to take out your anger. I'd get into something where it doesn't matter how hard you hit. And you could try asking your friend to join with you. It's always better to have a friend at your side when you try something new so you're not the only one learning.
Hope I helped! ^.^
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Why not try taking up a contact sport like boxing or judo, or a non-contact sport like kung fu, to work off your excess angry energy. I think that perhaps you need to channel your anger in a positive way towards some kind of challenge and then once you have been able to ease the anger, you need to find out why you feel so angry all the time.
Try to work out a pattern of what it is that triggers your anger. Write down every time you feel you are losing it and what you were doing prior to that. Once you have identified the triggers, you then need to find a way of diffusing it before it gets out of hand. Either by walking away or shadow boxing or another technique taught in a sports class.
It is a very positive step that you recognise you need help now before something really serious goes down. I wish you all the best and hope that you get the help you desire. Good luck.
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