|
my g/f's friend
Ok,well my g/f has this guy friend who she went out with for 6 months beafore going out with me (we've been going out for over a year),she never use to hang out with him at all,well we've had problems with me and her mom so we cant exactly be together atm and all of a sudden she decides to start hanging out with him and all his freinds again.ok,they went to a concert,and they are jus to close for my comfort.She had told me not to hang out with my close girl friend and i havent i told her him and she did anyways.needless to say,i kinda hated her guts .I told her choose and she went off and started screaming in my face and i freaked out cus i have major anger issues and she knows this but she likes to make me mad anyways so we had a big argument and i told her choose or im leaving you for good so she called him and talked to him about it cus she said "i dont want him to hate me"and told me that he sugested that "they not hang out anymore" i dont know what to think,am i over reacting, i mean what would you do? please help me.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You are right to be mad, because she asked you to not hang out with your close girl friend, but did not return the favor by staying away from the guy friend. I think the two of you need to decide that either both of you can hang out with whomever you wish or no one can. It has to be equal. There is either trust or there is not, and I so would not want to be tied down with someone I could not trust to be faithful.
]
I think you may be overreacting just a little bit, but I can understand where you're coming from, and I'd probably be upset too if my boyfriend was sitting there hanging out with another girl all the time and being way too close for comfort. But your girlfriend IS gonna have guy friends just like YOU are going to hav girl friends, so you need to realize they're going talk, they're going to hang out and everything.
But instead of fighting with eachother, whenever you feel upset, just try and talk to them about it in a calm tone and just explain to them your feelings in the situation.
I would just go up to her and let her know you're sorry you freaked out like that, she knows the temper you have, but you're just really not comfortable with how close her and this guy seem to be getting. It's a little too close for comfort in your book, and it's hurting you. And just bring up that old memory of the time when she said you couldn't hang out with your girl friend. And just explain to her you did what she asked and stopped talking to her and everything, so could she please do the same for you, or at least let you hang out with yours, because you deserve to talk to whomever you want also.
But your girlfriend shouldn't have to choose between having a boyfriend and having friends.
And just remember, she loves you, she is YOUR girlfriend and nobody elses, right? Just remember she may be hanging out with her guy friends, but she'll always come back to you later and you're the only guy she loves and everything.
I hope I helped.
]
i had the same problem but reversed and it was REALLY bad in the end but i doubt that we could have the same problem .. she is probly just trying to have fun to keep her mind off not seeing you! she loves you and remember shes YOUR girlfriend not his. maybe she just wants to be friends with him like they were before they went out. remember shes with you.. write back if you need =] keep me posted -helen
]
Obviously she really likes you.
But i don't think you should put her in a position where she has to chose her boyfriend over a guy friend. It's kinda messed up.
Because she doesn't want to lose someone she loves and a really good friend.
I know they had something before but that's in the past. She's been with you for over a year, so it must mean something to her.
You should give her some time to hang out with him... but tell her that you're kinda jealous. She will understand that and maybe back off from the guy.
You did over react a bit.
But you really shouldnt tell her who she can hang out with or not. Just bring up.. how she told you.. not to hang out with your close girl friend. (She shouldn't be saying that either)
You need to trust each other a little more than that.
If the relationship has lasted this long, it should be strong with trust.. not with doubt.
]
More Questions: |