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Sorry...this is kjinda long Im just really upset and confused and I need serious help!
Well...this past Saturday was homecoming. I wasn't planning on going. My best friend and I go to the same school and we were going to do something else but last minute changed our minds because of two guys.
We're sophmores now and my high school is so big that you meet new people every year in your grade that you would never imagine beind friendly with. Well, this year my best friend happened to have some classes with this kid Adam. Adam's in a band with another kid in the sophmore class and the third guy in the band goes to a different school in another town but knows a lot of people from our school and etc..
So...we had a day in the beginning of the year where we had an all day assembly and just a free day at school. Me, my best friend, Adam, and some other kids all hung out and talked and joked around and all. I had known Adam from the previous year but never really talked to him. I knew about his band and all and my best friend had started talking to him first. She said he was really cool and he likes all the same stuff as we do. She said that he said we could sell merch at some of their shows and stuff like that. So he knew who I was. Later on that night of the day of that school assembly, I got a message from Adam on myspace saying that he really liked my best friend and that he wants to go to homecoming with her and that his friend Matt [who had seen my myspace and knows about me and my best friend from Adam and us wanting to help out with the band] was really into me [i guerss just from seeing my myspace and seeing how all of our personalities go together great because he's obsessed with blink 182 with Adam and grew up with them as did me and my best friend.] So I told my best friend and she said that she wasnt really into Adam in that way just as a best friend and said that Matt seems really sweet and that I should get to know him. Matt is the one guy in the band that goes to a different school.
So...later on he messaged me on myspace saying "so I hear you're the girl of my dreams...we should all hang out sometime!" It was really sweet abnd maed me smile. I guess its not every day a guy finds a girl just like him. So...I continued talking to Adam on aim helping him with my best friend a bit and we really get a long and became really good friends as did my best friend and him.
They both paid for homecoming tickets for us and we went on Saturday. A couple days before homecoming my best friend asked Adam if Matt liked me and he said "well Matt said shes already awesome and perfect and we love the same stuff and if shes awesome in person ill like be in love lol".
So...Saturday came around adn I was so nervous. I had never met Matt before as did my best friend. We met up with them t the school and they both got us flowers and it was really sweet. We hung out most of the night and had a good time. We talked a lot and just joked around and whenever we got up or moved around, Matt would always make sure I was by him and he was really sweet.
As the night ended and everyone was outside waiting for their rides, we were talking and joking around and his arm was around my waist. It was so cute cause he was so sweet and amazing! Then when I had to go with my best friend to go home...she went and hugged Adam and I turned around and it was SO close for me to kiss Matt and it seemed like he was ready for whatever. but I guess the moment was SO QUICK that before I could figure out what I should do I just went into hugging him and he kissed my cheek then me and my best friend walked of and said bye. As we were loking for the car, Matt yelled BYE ARIELLE and I smiled. Then we got in the car and my best friend got a text message from Adam saying WE HAD A RAD TIME! and then thats it.
What my problem is, is that Matt didn't even message me or anything afterwards. Just yesterday [monday] I messaged him to ask him what time his show was on friday [cause his band is having a show on friday and they wanted us to sell their merch and stuff] and he said "dooors open at sixxx! but you guys could come earlier to help us set up the merch and stuff." then I said back "OKAY WELL BE THERE!=]"
He didnt say anything else. Ive been screwed around by guys a lot and hurt. Im not picky but I like guys who like the music i like and can go to concerts with me and are sweet and thats exactly what he is. Im really confused and sorta hurt. Why wouldnt he say anything to me like message me and say "I HAD FUN! I REALLY LIKE YOU!"?
And not to sound stalker-ish but when i saw him answer my message i went to his myspace and saw if he answered any of his comments that people left him saying like HEY MATT! or HEY I SAW YOU TODAYYYy!! and he didnt answer them so idk if he doesnt talk a lot online or what.
So one side of me says ...oh this is great! I like him! then the other side says....i dont wanna even get happy over it and i just should forget it cause he probly doesnt like me and then Ill be even more heartbroken.
I dont know what to do! I havent talked to Adam yet cauuse i dont see him in school all the time and stuff...maybe i should talk to him on aim or something and see if he brings Matt up...
Im not sure what to do or think of feel. Im hurt and SO confused. I dont know why he wouldnt talk to me afterwards or say something or anything!
Can I pelase have some advice on the situation...I like him alot but i dont know what to do.
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I can see why you're upset about this situation. It's not every day you find someone who likes you and you like back just as much.
If I were in your position, I obviously wouldn't want to be messed around. Noone would.
The most obvious thing you can do at the moment is ask Matt straight out if he still likes you. and you should tell him you like him also.
If you find it too hard to say it face to face, again, leave another message for him on MySpace.
Just saying something along the lines of you had a good time before and you're really looking forward to the gig. Or you can't wait to see him because you feel you both connect in ways you thought weren't possible. That way, it will give him time to think of what to say back. and he will know your feelings for him.
Perhaps he's shy too talk to you himself? Or as you've said, he doesn't really get enough time online to chat to people. If he has a mobile and you don't have his number, perhaps ask Adam for it and randomly txt him and ask how he is - y'know, general chit chat. Or, get Adam to ask Matt if he still likes you. It's best if you just go for it.
Because 1. If you don't, you will never know.
2. It could be he just isn't sure how you feel and he doesn't want to ask himself?
3. You will feel a whole lot better, trust me. Even if it doesn't work out the way you want to, you'll still feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. :)
Be brave!
I hope it all works out great for you. Let me know what happens.
Best of luck!
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