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Oh, Mother. (long)
I don't know what I did, or why she reacted this way.. Like an hour ago, my mom stormed out of the house, crying.. freaking out..
I can understand why she had a breakdown, but I don't know why she said what she did, and acted that way. My grandfather, her dad, passed away just about a week and a half ago. Because of this, it has put her behind in school, to become a nurse. There are other factors, but those two seem to be most stressful at this point.
The trigger was my father not filling up the dog's water dish. (Let me say that they have been married for over 20 years, and out of my 17 years of being alive, I have never seen them hug.) I was in my room and heard her screaming bloody murder. I went out in the other room to see her crying, screaming, and nearly tripping on herself. My brother and my father were just standing there as she was on her rant. Basically she said she doesn't want us in her life, and grabbed the keys to her car, and she's been gone ever since.
I guess my question is, what do I do?
To be honest, I'm scared. She has her attitude, but she has always managed to keep her cool.. This is the first time she's acted this way..
And advice would be greatly appriciated and loved.
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You said shes always managed to keep her cool? maybe its keeping it inside of her thats led to her acting this way.
People dealw ith loss in many ways and greif can make people the opposite of who they are. Many people find it hard to cope with it and feel like they have to get away from their lives to cope. ( which sounds to me like your mum is trying to exscape theese prolems)
You obviously have every right to be worried she is your mum and you obviously care about her, have you checked round her friends or any other amily for her? if you knwo shes safe leave her for a bit and let her figure out what she is going o do because making her come back could make things worse.
Youre asking what to do? well to be honest be there and try and make things as easy as you can. Try to get rid of some of the other little things that may be stressing her. Housework and keeping things tidy are often little things but not things that you think could be a problem.
Just try to let her come to terms with what has happened in her own time and let her do what she needs to do. The only thing id try to do most of all was to just know that she was safe
good luck i hope it all works out for you
kim
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I think you should wait for your mother to get home to decide how to act.
So if she comes home like nothing happens, I'd let it go. If she comes home still angry, I wouldn't fight with her, it seems like she's just on edge right now, and anything will provoke her.
It's a stressful time for her like you said, and she might not have meant any of it.
If she has time later on in the week, talk to her about your Grandfather. See if there's anything you can do around the house to help her out. Basically anything. Even if she doesn't need you to, she'll appreciate the offer, and knowing you're there for her.
I'm sorry for your loss, and hope everything goes okay for you.
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At this point, nothing right now. Your mother is deffinitly going through some hard times, her father dieing could be the main cause of this. Something might have happened that you might not know about, when she comes home, just try to be there for her. Ask if you can make her something to eat, or get her something to drink. Just try to make her feel appreciated, get her flowers or something. Get your father to take her out to dinner. Hopefully she'll be back soon, if she isn't then you need to have your dad do something about it, lke go looking for her. Good Luck! Hope everything turns out well.
-Brina
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