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restraining order...long story, trying to make it short
I don't want to say my real name on here in case she tracks me down. I'd prefer to be called by my username.
I'm a homosexual seventeen-year-old female. My girlfriend broke up with me eight months ago. Shortly afterward, she called me and threatened to kill me. I tried to get a restraning order, and the only reason it wasn't granted was because she didn't get served. I didn't know her address. She contacted me recently, wanting to get back together and I said no. I haven't heard from her since.
And all this time, I have kept every single piece of paperwork having to do with the restraining order. Does this mean I'm not over her? I heard that if you still have things that have to do with your ex it means you aren't. I'm keeping the papers because I don't feel safe.
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Keep the papers
Look honey, you must really love and hate this girl at the same time. Your instincts are playin games wit u right now. If you feel so unsafe you can't walk out of the house without looking left to right to see if she's there. Then you need more help than you have already gotten contact the FBI, or the witness protection prgram to help you out. This is one of those times where fate comes knocking at your front door. You can't run away from this person. If she calls you again say this to her: *Be sure to use a soft easy tone, you don't want this person to snap over the phone
"Look we were a very good couple, and then you have decided that you do not want to be with me. I have accepted that decison for 8 months now. Now you call me back, and decide you want to kill me, I don't understand, my heart was broken."
Be sure to say this phrase exactly as it is written. If this is used the wrong way the person will take it the wrong way. With someone that is a threat to your life, you don't want that to happen. You are a bold person Speaking about this openly. This is just a start. You need to confront this person in a non hateful way speak to her as if you were having a mother to daughter conversation with an innocent 9 year old you'll be fine. No matter how much she screams or yells. Keep your soft tone the same. I'll pray for you every night if you want me, too.
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I don't think I would consider that paperwork to be a part of HER things. They are yours in case they are needed in the future.
Stay alert but lets hope she got the message and will leave you alone. And if you ever find her address, file those papers.
Very few people on this site have access to your user information. But, should you ever feel threatened here please let us know. :)
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