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trouble-maker.
ok, let's just say i'm a trouble-maker... but only when i'm hanging out w/ friends. i mean, i never lie to my mom or anybody else but when i'm around my friends i do. and when i'm around my friends i swear and do all kinds of stuff. i don't want to stop hanging out w/ them because i've known them FOREVER but how can i start staying out of troulbe when i'm around them? please help. THX <3
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I know this will be hard. But you have to stop doing those things and act like you would when you are not with your friends. Then when they see you like this and ask you why you are acting like this then tell them how it makes you feel and if they understand then they won't put as much pressure on you to do those things. If they don't understand then make a compromise and do that stuff sometimes when you are with them but nothing that you will always regret. Remember you are the only one you ever have to please!
Good Luck!
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Tell your friends that you dont feel right doing all that bad stuff, if they are true friends they willaccept it and still be okay with you. If they make you keep doing it then make new friends, they cant be the only pople you know..
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It sounds like your friends are a bad influence on you. I'm guessing that your friends do these things to. If you have to act that way, just to be their friend. Then, they're not really your friends. Friends accept you for who you are, not what they think you should be or want you to be.
I would talk to your friends, explain to them you don't want to be a trouble maker. If they don't accept that, then move on to new and better friends, or if you feel you can't stay out of trouble when you're with them, even if they do accept that, then move on to better friends.
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Hey there,
sounds like you may have out-grown your friends. You sound like a polite, together person and you know the difference between right and wrong. You don't have to stop hanging out with your buddies or close off all ties, but you could start by meeting other people through after school clubs etc - Kind of wean yourself off them and when you do spend time with them be confident to be who you are and practice it (a little at a time) around your friends slowly i.e. don't swear around them - see if they notice or whether they hassel you for it. Pretty soon you will know whether they are loyal friends who like you, for you or want you to be 'just like them'.
It might be wise to know that some people grow with you and walk the same path, as you get older (and they will be friends for life) others just don't grow up and stay in the same rutt forever. Also, i have friends that at 30 i have known for the last 15 years and they are pretty important to me and others that i have also known for the same amount of time for that i still care about but am not as 'involved' with.
You can still be supportive to your mates without being involved in their trouble.
hope that helps, good luck!
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First you need to decide whether these friends are going to dictate your actions, or if you are. Part of being responsible for yourself is making your own decisions rather than letting yourself be unduly influenced by others, especially if it results in behaviour that normally wouldn't occur.
Some cynics would say that you're simply using the group as an excuse to misbehave, as though its ok to screw around and lie to people becuase "I'm with my friends when I do it". I could be out with my friends, and I could decide to shoot someone in the head. Do you think the police, when I tell them "Its not my fault, I was with my friends", are going to say "Oh, ok...well we shouldn't expect you to be responsible for your own actions, here let me take those handcuffs off..."?
Its up to you, and you alone, to tell the truth at ANY time. Sure there may be other factors (such as these friends possibly wanting you to lie), but its your choice in the end. If you let a group of people dictate your life, not only will you be a 'sheep', but you'll run the risk of making some really bad choices. If you lie when you around these people, then it sounds like you are already making some.
If you are going to lie, at LEAST lie because you WANT to lie, dont shift blame to the group. And if you dont want to lie, if this group pressures you to do things you dont want to do...then you need new friends.
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