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Two men, one a boyfriend, one an old friend
Right im 22, i have this boyfriend (X) and he is really nice and i do like him but he is three years younger than me, and an old friend of mine (Y), who is older than me, told me a couple of weeks ago that he really likes me and he has just been afraid to ask me out.
So Y asked me to go out on a date with him, i said yes but im still with X.
Now the huge problem is that X told me hes in love with me today and i cannot dump him because im going to hurt him so badly!
So i was going to go on the date with Y and see how it goes (Y knows about X btw) and if i really like Y, tell X im sorry but its not working.
What im asking really is, is this a good idea or should i just finish with X now and save any hurt?
I really need a quick answer as the date is tomorrow night!!
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First off you should be warned that I am in no way an expert on such things. However, I will give it my best shot.
There is no doubt that you will really hurt your boyfriend, and you are right that the timing is really bad (now that he told you he loved you and all that). However, since you dont feel the same way back, Im not sure its such a great idea to keep the relationship even if the date with Y goes badly. In the end, you would just be keeping him as some sort of reserve, until someone you really loved came along.
Then there is also the matter of trust. If you go out with Y while still having a boyfriend you are cheating on him. That in itself is wrong to me, whether or not it spares his feelings.
Some people have a somewhat looser, more utilitarian outlook on things like this. I tend more towards categoric rights and wrongs. So, you have to understand, I can only advise you to be honest. It may not be pretty, but its the right thing to do, in my opinion anyway.
In the end, ending it now with your boyfriend might be the best thing for him. It will certainly be the fairest thing.
Anyway, hope this is of some use to you. Good luck.
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