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A lost best friend, so alone/
[Its going to be long, but please, just help me]Her name is Hannah.
We were the best of friends for about four years, we were so alike and so opposite, it was crazy. We understood each other more then anyone else, we didn't keep a single secret from each other, it was insane. She knew more about me then I knew about myself. She taught me how to be myself and not let others influence me, and how to see beauty in my imperfections.
Over the summer she got into it with this guys. He began fingering her and she hung out with him and his friends while they smoked. I found out she began drinking and our fights became very frequent. I was losing her, and I knew it. She became friends with this group of girls so famous for all the bad things they do, my brother, a senior and high school knew about them. [We're in 8th grade]
I've lost her completley. She's not the same person, she's running away, stealing, drinking, cussing at her parents, cutting, everything. We've both moved on, and I know theres no way to save our friendship. But I miss her, I can't trust anyone anymore and when I hear her name I breakdown in tears.
How can I ease the pain, I have no one to be there for me know when things get tough.
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i know you probably dont want to hear this but you did the right thing. all of those bad things, can really affect your life. it deffinalty affected your friendship. but you did the right thing, and maybe loosing her as your best friend was meant to happen ]=
but there are plenty more great friends out there, and if you let them, they'll be your friend. [=
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Wow. This is horribl.e beyond words. I know that if my best friend..which won't really happen since he's gay..erm anywhos if my best friend...let's say it was Jen, than I would breakdown too so don't feel bad about that.
Only in 8th and she's already becoming sexually active, drinking, smoking and all that?!?! More teens who begin drinking under the age of 15 are likely to become alcoholics. Tell me about your friend past...like any divorce or abuse or anything? This guy is changing her and she's going under the influence instead of above..I know sounds corny but oh so true.
You should really really talk to her. You guys were the bestest friends, maybe there's still some o fhtem left in your friend. Just call her up and meet her at a playground or somewhere like that and start of with a "I want you to listen to me and not get mad at me. I really care about you and you're tearing me up right now" or something like that. Talk about what's conserning you. Her behaviors, habits, friends, etc. Make sure that you don't lose it and both of you end up screaming and such. Don't interrup either. She'll probably say something like you don't know _________. Tell her. Show her what she's been acting and doing recently. Ask her how she would feel if you started to drink, steal, smoke, cut, etc. Would she care? If she says she does, then tell her that you care about what she is doing too. If she says no, then remind her of your 4 year friendship. Tell her that she needs to get her out of that group and straighten out her life or else you WILL tell the guidiance or principle or some administrator at your school because parents won't really have any power to do much.
Don't bluff. Think of it this way: You've already "lost" the friendship and you'll always have time to gain it back but you won't be able to if you lose the friend. You don't wanna lose Hannah completely. She can easily kill hersle ffrom cutting and if she moves on to drugs she can od. I hope I helped and your friend needs really really big help from someone.
As for your pain, start a journal, diary something--and no, don't make it like blogger.com or anything. USE PAPER AND WRITING UTENSIL or you will get in trouble for something..been there done that. Erm listen to music, draw, write poems or start a serious story. IT always helps me.
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