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Over Protective Cousin
Im from England. I just last week i came back from staying in Canada for 3 weeks. i went with my family to visit family. We stayed with my cousins. we havent seen eachother in ages, since we were young. Me and one of my guy cousins hit it off. And we formed like a brother-sister relationship. Which im happy about but hes way too over protective (hes only a yr older than me). He didnt like it if i went out with his older brother and we drank. Hed give me the 3rd degree the nxt day. He didnt like it whn i spent time with other ppl. He even thought something was going on between me and his brother!!! I told him id try to stop drinking (he doesnt drink), but i only drink socially and not much.
Anyway my family want to move to canada nxt year to the same area for good. I really want to go but i dont want him to be watching me constantly. i want to be able to do what i like without him getting upset and then me feeling guilty.
Ive tried to be honest with him. and we always talk and email eachother etc.
I dont knw what to do. He admits hes over protective but he doesnt seem to do anything about it. He has a gf and im 100% sure our relationship is just bro-sis.
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Is he the youngest brother? Perhaps it makes him feel in charge and important to be looking after you like a little sis. Tell him you appreciate his caringness and that you know he will be there for you. However, you have to decide when to feel guilty and when not to by yourself. No one can make us feel anything. If he is too buggy, then tell him he will have to ease up on you if he wants you to still have such an honest relationship. If you do move closer, then he will eventually see that you are capable of taking care of yourself and probably back off a bit. Of course, it is always good to know that he has your back if you need him.
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