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i dont get what im doing wrong..
i know this might be long,but im sorry,i've been going through this for over a year..
okay,so,i'll start out- i moved to a new town,made a lot of friends,everything was good.next year,im really quiet,start turning invisible.now this year i really want to change.i've been so closed up,and every answer i give to someone,its just all akward.i have no confidence,and only a few people see me as a friend they'd hang out with out of school. im starting to join a new "click" which i like,but i dont want it to be like the last.how can i talk a lot? how can i keep the person interested with me? i dont wanna run out of topics.i need to learn confidence and also be happy with myself,but how? how do i become outgoing? like 3 years ago? its just so akward all the time with me,im so quiet,i dont know how to speak up,or get into things,help!!!thanks to all who help
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the first thing you need is some confidence! try practicing what you want to say in front of the mirror and then try it out on your friends. the last thing you want is for them to get bored of you and move on. you have find out things that you have in common with them and talk about that. always smile, but remeber: don't ever change just so someone can like you, its not worth the risk! if they don't accept you for who you are then they're not worth it. if thats the case then maybe its time for you to move on. remeber there are only two kinds of change that are good for you: a) change that benefits you as a person, and b)the kind of changhe that you have in your pocket. i hope i've helped out
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A great conversationalist is also a great listener. When you run out of words, just turn it back to that person or anyone else standing by with, "And what do you think?" Ask others questions and really listen to them. They will walk away thinking that you are interested in them, and that is what will increase their interest back to you. You don't have to be a smooth-talker to be fun, funny or taken seriously from time to time. Just don't take it too seriously and be willing to see yourself in other people's eyes. This takes humility, but can be an eye-opener for how others perceive our strengths and weaknesses. Instead of worrying about the next topic to come up with, spend the time the other person is talking by really hearing what they are and are not saying. You will find more to talk about than you think.
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