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make it up to me?
This guy & I have been 'talking' for a while. we hooked up & we're basically unofficially together because I want a friendship first. Well the other night we were really close & stuff & he asked my for my friend's older sister's number. After he asked a couple times, I got the number for him thinking nothing would happen since she's 2 years older and has a bf. Well he text her all that night and he totally hit on her. The next day my friend told me and forwarded the texts.. he tried to deny it but then he came clean. He said he was sorry & that he wanted another chance & eventually my trust back. I think [not sure] I want to give him another chance because i think we could make it work & my last relationship- my ex dumped me when I lost his trust & it completely torn me apart so I have some understanding. My question is what should I tell him to do to "make it up to me"? Something that would show he really is sorry & won't do it again. I want to teach him a lesson that I don't take crap from him but not something too difficult, know where I'm going? Thanks for your help, I really appreciate it!
We're both almost 16 by the way & don't go to school together.
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Aren't you glad you took things slow with this guy? If you honestly want a relationship with this guy, then you should not be looking for a way to punish him. You should be asking yourself if he is worth the wait. This is because the only way to find out if you can trust him is to give it time. At 16yrs old a week can seem like forever (yes, I remember), but it is important that you take things slow and develop trust as you go. He may or may not earn it, but you still will need to decide from your heart if you are ready to choose to trust him. Remember what Dr. Phil says, "Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing." Something like that, anyway. You won't in actuality know what he is doing or whom he is doing it with 24hrs. a day, and he may just get better at deceiving you, so keep your eyes open. The only person you can control is you, so let him prove or disprove his trustworthiness by his actions not his promises.
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say your giving him another chance but like keep him guessing like, when you hang out with him for the next several times do not hit on him or hook up with him then like start to flirt and like get more and more like flirty ya know? so like he has to wait then when you finally give it to him, he likes it more. and will like you more.
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Well there isn't much you can tell him to do. He needs to be true to you and he has to show you he can do that without you telling him a thing. If you tell him what to do he is just following orders...he doesn't have to mean that.
Just tell him you want to be treated with respect and you won't tolerate him cheating or hitting on other girls.
It will take time but you can learn to trust him again. Let him know that too. Make him work for it himself and it will mean so much more. :)
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