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my best friends party
In May of 2006, my best friend had an end of school party and invited all girls. One of the girls that she invited started a game called “truth or dare: make out style.” The first person that she dared was me. We licked, kissed, and touched each other all over each other’s body. I had to kiss and touch my best friend that I’ve now since I was in kindergarten and it felt kind of awkward but I got used to it!! I actually enjoyed it, which I know was wrong. In august, my best friends mom comes knocking on my door and says that her daughter said that I was making advances towards her, which I didn’t. The girls at the party said that I started the game and later was denied to ever see or handout with my very best friend. What should I do to the friends that blamed everything on me? I need some major advice!!!!!!
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This is a really bad situation. I would definantly start of by asking your friend and her mother to come over for dinner or something. I'd explain that you didn't start this game and some of the other girls did, and you just went along with it not to feel left out. Tell them that you didn't think it was wrong and it didn't mean anything, it was just a game you guys played and you didn't start it.
Also, first, maybe try talking to your friend and ask why she blamed you for this game when you know for a fact you didn't start it. Explain to her that you didn't go along with the game because you wanted to make advances ot whatever, you just didn't want to be left out.
good luck & hope it helps
xox
Laura
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This is a most unfortunate situation. My guess is that some of the other girls were uncomfortable with what was going on. Your friend might have actually been okay with it, but was afraid to admit it to her mother, and so blamed it on you. She didn't have the courage to speak the truth, and as a result you've been hurt.
It's my own opinion that there's actually nothing wrong with what you did, but you'll find that not everyone has that opinion. You will also find that most parents are going to freak out about behavior like this, and look to blame anyone they can except their own kid.
What can you do about it? Unfortunately, your options are somewhat limited. If everyone else is saying one thing and you're saying another, people will assume that you're the one who's lying. It's not fair or right, but it's what you will face. The only thing you can do is make it clear to these "friends" that they hurt you with their dishonesty, that you now feel you cannot trust them, and that there can be no friendship without trust. If possible, you must inform their parents that you have been unfairly accused and that they are making you take the fall for something that everyone participated in. Some of them may choose to believe you. Some of them won't no matter what you say or do.
You're going to lose some of these friends. Be prepared for that. Those that were true friends will come around, and I truly hope that some of them do. If any of them are of good character, they will; if not, you may be better off without them in the long run.
You have my sympathy. Best of luck to you.
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