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losing my best friend to her b/f
14 f .so my best friend has had this boyfriend for almost 20 months now. and i know that its great and stuff and they are really great together but i dont see much of her anymore. last summer was so fun we hung out almost everyday and then this summer she was with her b/f. i only saw her 3 times. alot had been happening with me lately and she doesnt know any of it. i told her that i needed to talk and she said okay. but then everytime i asked her to hang out she said she was hanging out with her b/f. she doesnt even try to make plans with me. i dont know what to do. i feel like im losing my best friend. he wont always be there. and when she gets hurt, she may not have a best friend to help het through it. you have to balance your friends and your b/f. but how do i get her to see that?
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You just need to talk to her about it. She's your best friend, so you can tell her what you're feeling. Just be like,"We really do need to hang out soon, cause I've hardly seen you lately! And I miss you!" And just let her know that it's great she has a boyfriend and everything, but it's just lately she's been hanging out with him alot and you less, and you miss hanging out with her, and you feel like you're losing her.
I know it sounds lame, but maybe you guys can have like "a best friends hangout day" like, maybe you two can hang out every friday or saturday or something and no boyfriend. No calls, no nothing. And then she can hang with her boyfriend whenever. Or, maybe you and the boyfriend can start to become friends [ unless you already are ], and just all hang out together more. And hopefully as time progresses, you guys won't need a "a best friends hangout day" because you two'll start to hang out again more and everything'll be good.
I hope I helped.
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you have to talk to her.
say something like, "I really want to hang out with you, and I was wondering if there was a time where we can plan to do something together. I havent seen you a lot lately and I really want to go somewhere or what=not"
just whatever you do, dont say anythng like "youre always with you boyfriend" that will probably make her mad.
just explain to her that you want to hang out.
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