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I like my best friend, who likes another one of my friends.
My best friend's name is Mike, and I have another close friend who's name is Ashley. Both of them have rather sad past relationships, and Mike's ex-girlfriend was my best friend of three years before we drifted apart. Before she and Mike had started dating, she knew that I had a crush on him, but she dated him anyway. It cracked our friendship, and I don't want that to happen with anyone else. After they broke up, I was getting a lot of hints that he liked me; he brought me my favourite flowers (a boquet of sunflowers and red roses that he arranged) in the morning on my birthday, he went out of his way to get me and him concert tickets to Strhess Fest, and whenever he hugs me, he trails his fingertips down my side.
Ashley recently got a car, while neither Mike nor I have one, so Mike's been around Ashley lately, and she knows how I feel about him, but she likes him anyway, and he's been saying that if he were wanting to date, he'd ask her out.
I don't know if I should tell Mike how I feel, and possibly ruin our friendship, or if I should let him and Ashley date; but I let that happen once, and it pretty much ruined our friendship.
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I would hint it back to him and maybe ask, "you know we should hang out more one on one" and do just that. Hang out with him one on one. Go out to dinner, and maybe, if things are going well and he seems like he is having a nice time, let it out. Don't make a totally big deal about it, just casually say, "You know, maybe we should take our relationship to the next level. What do you think?" If he says yes, then maybe give him a little kiss ;] and if he says no, don't make a big deal or get weirded out. Just say, "That's ok. I just always have a nice time with you and I thought we might make a good couple. No big deal. Then try and bring up a funny memory to cool things down. you know?
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Laura <3
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I think you should tell him how you feel, without delay. He certainly giving you a lot of signals, and he's probably waiting for one from you. He may be suggesting the idea of him dating your friend just to see how you'd react.
You have nothing to lose by telling him how you feel, because if you don't, your friendship is eventually doomed anyway. Consider this: Guys do NOT personally arrange flower bouquets for girls they want to be "Just Friends" with.
How you tell him is up to you, but tell him quickly, before he asks Ashley out. If he asks her out first, and then you approach him, your friendship with her will be jeopardized.
Speaking as a guy, I can tell you that EVERYTHING Mike is doing is a strong sign of affection for you. Go for it!
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