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just can't tell mom
My mom & I are really close and I usually tell her everything. I'm 17 and been with my serious boyfriend for almost a year now. We've just started having sex and it's so hard keeping it from my mom. She thinks I'm not ready & haven't been with my boyfriend long enough. I feel I am and have no regrets. Should I tell her and risk having to leave my boyfriend because of her reasoning or keep this one personal thing from her?
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you shouldnt keep this from your mom if u have that good of a elationship with her b/c each time you do something else "personal" your going to say " oh its ok, i'll just keep one more thing from her" and soon enough you'll lose that amazing relaionship you once had.
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keep it from youre mom .. even if you are close .. shell get a different perspective of youre boyfriend & she wont like it when you guys are alonee.
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Your body and sexuality is your business, and you do not owe it to her to tell her everything. However, if it is an important part of your relationship to continue to be open and you think she would be supportive then tell her. If you think (because you know and I don't) that she will only give you grief for it and guilt etc. then don't tell her. You may want to start by asking her at what age and how long exactly would you have to be with a guy in order to get her blessing...she may have difficulty answering! A lot of parents wish their kids were married first to avoid heartbreak and problems that can come from sexual activity. Hopefully you are using condoms everytime to help prevent disease/pregnancy. Your mom may not approve of your "adult" decisions in various areas of your life, and if you were over 18yrs. old and on your own I would tell you to keep your private business to yourself. Technically you are still a child and in mom's care and responsibility, so if she finds out that you are having sex, don't be surprised if she feels like it is her business.
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well the right thing to do here would be to tell your mother about it and let her know. because even though it's personal, it's a pretty big personal thing to keep from your mother. if you and your mother are really close and i mean, you've been with your boyfriend for a year, so i would let her know. just tell her,"mom, you know me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year, and lately..we've began having sex. and i know you're probably against it, but i really do love him and i just felt that since i'm 17 years old i can start making some of my own decisions, and i made a choice. but i just wanted to let you know because i usually come to you with everything, and i didn't want to be one of those daughters who sneaks around everywhere lieing to you." [ or something like that ] because i mean, if you and your boyfriend have been dating for a year, i wouldn't say it's EXPECTED of you two to have sex, but most teenagers dating that long would probably have had sex also, so your mother might even be thinking the same thing.
i hope i helped.
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Well the "right" answer is to tell your mom.
But If it were me, I wouldn't tell my mom the age started sex, until she thought i was ready for sex or years later.
But you can always tell you're mom, you've already done, it so its not like she's trying to save you're virginity & Maybe she'd realize that you do love you're boyfriend enough to loose it to him.
But you didn't mention if you lost your virginity to him, i assumed it.
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