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Shy Guy???
Hi I am 15/f
Like typical teen girl, I have a boy problem. Lets say this guy's name is Conrad. I think I like him, I mean I always thought he was cute ever since last year but never really talked to him because
1. he is super shy
2. we never had a same class
so I just let it go, because he is not extremely cute. In fact my friends think I'm kind of weird that I like him because he's just not that type of a guy that girls go after. Which by the way are guys that I am attracted to a lot. Those guys who aren't good looking at all, to all other people, but whatever, because I think they are cute but getting back to the point.
So the 9th grade passed by, and then 10th grade started and I now have 2 classes with him. But we don't sit near each other, because the seating arrangement is in ABC order, so we sit far away from each other. So I kind of let that go too, but one day, I just happened to sit next to him at computer lab and we just kind of talked for a while, and now I say hi to him in the hall way and I talked to him more. But he is just so shy and I dont know what to do. I mean I dont want to scare the guy away by straight out asking him if he likes me or asking him out or anything. Also I am not sure if this is an infatuation, which I happen to have a lot, in fact all of my previous relationship was infatuation that never lasted longer than 2 weeks. So I dont know about that either.
I mean "Conrad" is a great guy. He's smart, he's polite and all that, and i happen to find him cute.
But I can't really see myself holding hands with him, hugging him, and etc...whole bf/gf stuff...
What do I do?
Pleaseeeeeee help
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Okay, well, a lot of shy guys just need a little push. I'm not saying jump on him and start like kissing him, but you know, maybe talk to him more, this may sound super lame, but if you ever need to borrow like a pencil or something then you could go ask him the more you talk the easier it'll be to talk to him, if you know where his locker is you could stop by to say hey. If this works out for you, you could always ask him to plow around with you and your friends sometime so he gets more comfortable, then you can spend time with him without it being an offical date. If it keeps building from there I definitely say go for it. Especially if you're really into him, this doesn't sound like just some crush you have, I think you're really into him.
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ok first thing you want to do is to find out if you really like him now here are some signs that you may see if you like him
1.)thinking about him/her alot
2.)smile when you think/talk to him/her
3.)just like talking to him/her for no reason
4.)talk about him/her alot to your friends or someone
5.)are scared of him/her not likeing you
now those are all signs i see when i like a guy i dont know if they might be the same for you but they could be then once you know you like him a easy thing to do could be to write him secret admirer notes/letter/emails when and if you do this make sure you make it clear that you like him then after a while give him some hints about yourself but dont give it away see if he can figure it out if he cant then you will have to tell him and i can help you with that now if you you dont want to do this secret admirerer thing then just go up to him sometime and tell him you like him but when you do act kind of shy so he doesnt feel like the only one now you have to tell him you like him first cause he is shy when you tell him and are acting shy just go to say it like hey ummmm.. i need to tell and ask you something but it's kind of hard to ask ok well ok i like you and i dont mean to put you on the spot but i was wondering if maybe you liked me too then wait for the answer then ask him out and if you use this advice or need more just ask me and i woud love to hear how it all works out whether you use my advice or not and if you like the advice please tell others about me cause i can help
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ya, shy guys are harder, but as youve said just keep talking to him. he will open up more and more as yall get more comfortable. try talking to him on AIM or yahoo instant messenger or sumthing like that, its easy to not be as shy on there. or the phone is also good if you can work up the courage to call him. Another thing, if hes as shy as you say, theres more than likely a reason hes talking to you at least this much. usually guys dont want solely friendship at one point or another. Its not infatuation if this has been going on for a while, if you think about him a lot. Maybe youre only looking at him differently now, so at first it might be different to hold hands with him. But you would probably adjust better once it starts happening. You wont scare him by asking him, if you tell him you like him, the worst that would happen would be that he is really flattered. He wouldnt be scared. But the best thing that could happen if for him to reciprocate, in which case yay! lol
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Omg the crazy thing is that this is the like the exact same thing that happened to me. but it happened all in one school year. Okay well i started doing was calling him. and then i started to know the real him. you know the whole talkative side. cause usually guy are just intimidated by girls that they like talking to them so thats why some are shy in school and stuff. but anyway i started talking to him for a while and i mean i liked him the whole year but never saw myself with him. but then one day i just kinda let it out that i liked him and he did the same. and then the following two weeks he asked me out. and turned out to be a great boyfriend. so just call him or something and get him used to talking to you. hope i helped:]
Melissa
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