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my dads problem
ok so a few years ago my dad used to do cocaine i did not know this until a little over a year ago although now looking back i see the signs like we lost our house his job everything and he was very moody and other stuff.the way i found out was not good my mom was in a fight with me and she was all like you think your dads a saint well hes not he did cocaine she was yelling so i started to cry and say you are lyeing but i knew it was true.i asked my dad he said it was true and he doesnt do it anymore i believe him now i live with him and everything is good we NEVER talk about it but now i am worried because he didnt tell his gf who now lives with us and i think that is wrong but i dont want to ask him the only reason i know he didnt is cuase my sis asked him.my dad gets realy ashamed if it is mentioned so ya but i am also worried because he is acting strange and we just moved back to where his dealer is and i know he is stressedso he may be thinking about it
wat do i do?
~nikki~
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Tell your dad that you are worried about the situation. Talk to him and see if that helps. Then, if you are still concerned talked to your mom or another trusted friend/adult. I would not air the dirty laundry of your dad's past to his girlfriend, because that would be crossing the line. Their adult relationship is between them and they have to work out all their own trust issues. I don't know what strange behavior your dad is displaying, but keep an eye on him. If you do find out he is doing drugs again for certain, then you need to contact your mother or another trusted adult. You do not want to go through your whole young life living with his cocaine addiction. I truly hope and pray that he is recovered and clean, but you can also call or go to websites for drug addiction like Narcotics Anonymous, for additional help and support.
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Hi
Drug addiction is so nasty....it literally takes over your life. It's wonderful that your dad was able to rehabilitate himself.
I think that you should tell your dad that you are worried about him, and you'd like to talk. If he knows that you're worried he may be able to ease your fears. He could be under stress for many things, and hopefully he's not considering using again.
I don't think it's your place to inform your dad's girlfriend about his addiction, but I do think you could tell your dad that you feel she has a right to know. He's probably embarrased, and is scared that if she knows she may leave him. If she does then that's not the person for him...but again, this is for him to decide.
Keeping an addiction under control is up to your dad (or any user), but having supportive family to help you through it can be key.
Just be there for him. Open communication is paramount in ANY relationship.
Take care, and good luck.
Brenda
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talk to him, ask him if he is thinking about it and that he should tell his gf.
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