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friend went on vac. w/us..but didnt pay us back $300...
16/f
in july like the 26th or something my family went to florida for vacation. my dad said each of us could invite a friend (me and my brother) but they would each have to pay $300 for like the plane ticket and the hotel. well i invited one of my good friends amanda. and so im like will u be able to get the money? her parents are divorced and lets say amanda and neither of her parents get along. her mom is usually always drunk and he dad has a bad temper. she said she would be able to and then 2 days before we are about to leave her mom calls me and says amanda is grounded and cant come. well i tell my parents and they are like they cant do that we bought the tickets and everything already. amandas family doesnt have alot of money so we knew that they were just trying to make up some excuse because they couldnt come up with the money. well my parents feel bad for amanda because she never gets to go anywhere and her parents arent that nice. so my dad talks to her parents and is like is the money thing an issue? and hes like if it is then you guys can pay me back when we get home or whatever or when you have the money. and so then we all come back and whatever and now its been almost a month and still no money! she only brought like 70$ with her down there so we even paid for some of her souvineers she bought. my parents are always on me about getting the money because we arent exactly rich and we need this $300. i keep asking amanda about it and shes like well my dad is getting money for selling our cabin so he said he will give it to me when he gets it. my dad said he doesnt even care how he gets it..i told her that she could give us a $100 one time and like $200 the next and she is like okay! and still NO MONEY. i feel really bad for my parents because that is $300. i mean i keep asking amanda about the money but i feel bad always bringing it up and i know its probably annoying her but im just trying to help my parents out you know! any suggestions on how i can get this money and be done with it? all my parents were trying to do was be nice..thats just how they are and they always get screwed over =(
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This isn't between you and amanda, it's between your parents. Don't talk to amanda about it anymore because it just embarrasses her to have such rude parents. You parents need to handle it with her's, and if they are too intimidated to do so then they will just have to live without the money. Your parents are grown adults and it looks as though they really did have an idea of what they were getting into so don't you worry about them.
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Sometimes when you decide to be nice, people aren't nice back.
Yes, Amanda's parents should do the right thing and pay back your parents. But your parents could have avoided this whole thing by not lending money to people who clearly couldn't pay, and were willing to lie about it as well! Your parents didn't need to agree to take the money later; they could have looked more seriously into getting their money back (it's not impossible, it's just hard work is all) or you could have invited another friend, or they could have invited another person or family member! They did have other options, they decided to be nice.
What I am trying to say is although your parents are definitely owed money; they made a choice that put them in this situation. You need to stop feeling bad and being the go between girl, this isn't your problem! This is something the adults need to short out.
Amanda doesn't have the money, maybe her parents do, but Amanda clearly has NO control over her messed up parents, so stop hounding her. Her hands are just as tied as yours, so don't risk this friendship over money that she doesn't have and can't get.
So, ask Amanda for any contact information for her parents, phone numbers for work or e-mail addresses, and give those to your parents. Tell them that is the best you can do. It IS the best you can do, and it is the only thing you need to do. Let your parents contact hers and figure it out. If they actually want the money back they are going to have to talk to them like adults, and not make excuses like it's uncomfortable or they are never home.
It is amazingly unfair of your parents to try and make you do this nasty work, you and Amanda are innocent in all this and should just let it go and go back to being carefree friends.
Take this as a life lesson for yourself and don't loan money to people you can't trust to pay you back, and even if you do trust someone, get the fact that they are suppose to pay you in writing.
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What a predicament your in! I can understand where your friend is coming from more so, that I was poor growing up. Asking her all the time for the money isn't going to get it..mark my words. You know, it's not like she has a job. Your parents are simply going to have to talk to hers. I know you want to help, and it's good that your trying but I'm sure your friend is askin her parents all the time for the money and it's alot easier for her parents to look at her and say NO! then it would be if your parents actually called them.
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Well if nothing seems like its working try raising the money yourself, by say babysitting or something. That way maybe your parents can get it quicker from you, once Amanda gets the money, she can just give it to you. It sounds like alotta trouble but it could be easier.
If you don't wanna do that, maybe you should talk to Amandas mom. Maybe she doesn't realize how big of a deal it is that you guys want your money. Maybe she doesn't think it has to be soon.
Then again, no offense to your friend, but her mom could just be putting it off as long as she can. The only thing I know to do is get it on your own or just keep asking.
Good luck!
=] Evy
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