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How can I get away from my lesbian lover,I want to be with m
I've been dating a man and woman, I dont want the woman anymore, I have been honest and she won't leave me alone, im all she has, she has no mom or any family, she is so annoying what to do to get her out of my life. She says I owe her and she will kill herself if i leave. She makes me feel guilty but i started a family with my man and want to live right and drama free for my children. Please help!
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you said they both know about eachother so you didnt betray anyone so thats a good sign. i think you should seriously consider taking out a restraing order.because theres obviously something wrong. she could get dangerous and cause harm to you,your kids,or your man. shes a big girl and you owe her nothing. if she is suicidal then she needs help. a restraining order seems harsh but you need to cut her off and restrain her for the good of your family and you. its better to be dissapoint with the truth then rejoice with a lie.
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You were involved emotionally and sexually with at least two people at the same time, and that has got to be a little confusing for everyone involved. However, if you have ended your relationship completely with anyone, they need to respect that. If she is harassing you or making threats, you have an obligation to call the police. They may suggest you get a restraining order. Do not let yourself be manipulated by her "drama!" If you truly want to do the right thing for your family and it appears for your own happiness, then cut her off completely. You owe her nothing, because she is an adult and makes her own choices, whether they are beneficial or harmful. You are on the road towards making a healthy life for you and your family, so stay on course!
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Oooh, how deliciously Jerry Springer! This is the juiciest question we've had on site for a while. To be honest, I don't think there's anything to choose between you and your ex-girlfriend:you both sound equally selfish, manipulative and drama loving.Honestly,a household like the one you have just described is no place to bring up children. But since this site is about advice, not recrimination, I'll cut to the chase, and tell you to cut her loose. Serioulsy, it's your duty. You have a duty of care and responsibilty to your husband(although he sounds like an idiot to have tolerated your behaviour for so long) and more importantly to your children. Ignore your ex's suicidal talk-empty threat. Or if not, then still not your responsibility.Of the two of you , your life is the more valuable, not, I hasten to add, on account of your personality, but on account of your circumstances and responsibilities. She has a job, let her find a life. Be brutal if need be-it's the greatest kindness, long term. Stringing her along would be false kindness-so far, you have shown no appreciation of the nature of true love or kindness. You will never learn, if you do not cut her loose. You sound like a true drama addict-manipulative, sly and shallow. Grow up already! And let her grow up too.
Good luck.
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