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long distance realationships
I'm 23 and have two kids with my boyfriend. we started dating when we were 16 and we had our first kid when we were 18 so nether got to go to college. Back in April times got tough between us, I was not working because we just had our second, and all the bills and stress were on him. He thought we had fallen out of love and wanted to seperated so me and the kiss moved out and he imeditaly hooked up with someone else and moved in with her and thaught he loved her. After a short 3 weeks with her he decided he hated her and made the biggest mistake of his live and he said he knows now that he really does love me and we are meant to be and has asked me to marry him.The thing it during those 3 weeks i decided to do something with my life and go to college for a 2 year nursing program and stay at with my grandparents(who live 5 hours away) and have them help me out. I was not about to risk my future again and end up broke with 2 kids. I wanted to be with him he is the love of my live but i needed to do this for myself and my kids. He understands and loves me even more for becoming independent and wants to wait for me. He owns his own bus. so its hard for him to start all over here but he has considered moving here with me. So here i am a month into being 5 hours away( he has came twice to visit)do you think this can work or am i being crazy for even taking him back? Doesn't soom people just have to get things out of their system to realize?
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Ok first of all congratulations on being strong and going back to school and sticking with it! This is probably the best decsion you could make for your kids and yourself.
Look only you can decide whether or not you have a viable relationship, but I know that long distant relationships can work. School will only last 2 years, you will have summers and holidays off where you can spend time together. As long as the two of you work as a team you can get through this. Make sure that you explain to your kids that you still love each other and are together.
He may have just needed to get this out of his system, having been together so long and since you were so young it was probably bound to happen to both of you at different times throughout both of your lives you will probably wonder what if... its normal and as long as both of you remain committed to each other and your family you will make it.
You are obviously a strong women who not only is strong enough to face the unknown but strong enough to forgive a man who made a mistake! You will make an awesome nurse!
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