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My boyfriend and i havn't been getting along lately. im also pregnant with his kid. He broke up with my twice over the name. although i told him i dont want to talk about the name until we find out if its a girl or a boy. Also i think he is mad because i dont want to have sex with him because i think the sex is boring and not fun. We fight like every day. he says i talk alot of shit but i dont. he left a mean comment on myspace saying i talk alot of shit. his dad spoils him so he always gets him way.
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This is a difficult time for you both right now, as pregnancy and the prospect of becoming new parents puts a strain on almost every couple, so you need to accept that tensions will be running high right now.
The first issue here is the fighting. You will both have different views on a lot of things to do with your baby. Right now it is the name but this baby has a future in front of him or her and you and your boyfriend will need to make the majority of the decisions. That means that you both need to find a way to compromise. You don't want to talk about the name until you know the baby's gender. Fair enough. He dwants to talk about the name now. That's fair too. If you want to compromise over this issue then you might need to at least bend a little and at least consider a few names, if only to keep the peace. The fact is, he's probably excited about the little boy or girl growing inside you right now and he wants to feel a part of it. It's normal for soon-to-be Fathers to feel left out during pregnancy because they can't feel the sensations you feel and they don't share the closeness with the baby that you have, so you have to give him a little opportunity at least to feel involved in what is going on with this child. If all that means is talking over a couple of possible names then do it.
Now, the issue over the sex. I don't know if what you are feeling is new or if you have been feeling that way for some time, but it's perfectly normal for expectant Mother's to go off sex. I believe (having talked this over with a friend of mine who has a toddler) it is a combination of instincts to protect the baby and the fact that sexual intercourse is primarily for the point of reproduction. After conception, the desire for sex often dissipates because the subconscious need for reproduction has been met.
However, if your feelings towards the sexual side of your relationship have been there for a long time, then it might be that it just needs some work. All couples tend to experience a lull in the bedroom at some point or other and experience a need to 'spice things up'. I can't go too strongly into this but try to liven things up and change your routine. You should find things change.
At the end of the day, the main thing that you need to consider what is best for your unborn child. Yes, a baby should have a Father and a Mother who are together but if the Mother and Father do nothing but fight, this will only a detrimental effect. It is better to have two separated, great parental units, than one parental unit who are miserable. Consider what you want and what the baby needs and then make the best decision for the both of you. If you know in your heart of hearts that your boyfriend isn't the one for you, end it but allow him to be in the baby's life. He may no longer be your partner, but he will ALWAYS be your child's Father.
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He`s just being cocky because he knows he can`t have sex and name the baby the name he wants. It`s both of your baby and you should decide on what you want. When you go into labor and you have the baby - the moment will be perfect to see the baby and know which name is perfect for it. Tell him how you feel. & You don`t have to have sex either, doing other things like oral might shut him up.. lol. ♥
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Yeah, he sounds like a spoiled guy. Anyway, girls have all the right to be bitchy when they're pregnant, & it sounds like you're not being bitchy at all. Sounds like he's the woman. The fighting is probably mainly over the sex, no offense, but that's what guys like the best in relationships. He's missing out right now, so he's taking it out on you. If you guys don't stop fighting, I say ditch him, but not the baby. Surely someone will help you out with the baby, whether it's him or not. You shouldn't have to deal with more emotional stress while you're pregnant.♥
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