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earn his trust
this is REALLY long...sorry
I like this guy named Kevin, and i have for a while.
i have liked other guys, and had a boyfriend, but always had a crush on this guy.
We are pretty good friends, and we are coworkers
one day while working, i was like "hey, kevin, did you know i used to like you?"
and i said that because i didnt relize until a few days later i actually still liked him, its kinda a long story...
anyway, his jaw like, dropped, and i ended up asking him if he ever liked me, and after a really long and confusing answer, he was like "yeah, i did, it happened, its done" or soemthing like that.
So, i ended up telling him a few days later i still liked him, and he was like "okay" cause i kinda told him in this note i wrote him lol.
i was talking to him online, and i asked him what he liked about me before
he said " i dont know really, a lot of things, your looks were one of the things i'm sure...and the fact i can talk to you and it not be akward at all...that and a lot of other things"
so i said "okay, so what happened? my looks went bad and you cant talk to me"
and he said "no, i just cant trust you"
a few months ago, we made out, andi told a few friends, someone over heard, told a bunch of people, and too many people found out.
and someone told him i said he was a terrible kisser, plus,i have a fear of making out with guys with braces because i cut my tounge on this guys ones...
so thats what he means by he cant trust me...he says i critizes him too much because he still thinks i said he was bad, and because of the braces thing.
so, i flirt with him a lot, and he flirts back, and yet he says he doesnt like me anymore because of the trust thing...
then today, i was flirting with a lifegaurd at work (we allwork at the pool) and he got really pissed off
he was like "this is what i mean by the trust thing"
and i was like "you made it clear you dont like me, why do you care?"
and he said"because, if you really liked me, you wouldnt do that"
there was a lot more, and much more back story, but here is the question:
should i just try and gain his trust back somehow, and not flirt with anyother guys, and just focus on Kevin?
or should i tell him that since he says he doesnt like me, i dont want to be pressed on him all summer if there is no chance?
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sorry it took me so long to answer your question.
i was away on vacation, but now im back =)
as for your actual question, it all depends. you need to figure out which is more important to you, kevin, or any other guy (like the lifegaurd).
if you do decide you like kevin a lot, totally focus on him. hang around him, forget other guys, and flirt MAJOR. he'll realize you put aside every guy just for him, and will trust you again. it may take some time, but its practically a sure in. i bet he does like you, i mean after all you did make out. but he's just worried. he wont be soon though!
however, if you do decide you want some freedom of whats left of summer, flirt with twice as many guys. kevin will move on, and most likely be jealous.
i wish i could tell you what to do exactly. but. i cant. its all up to you!
hope i helped! (and sorry this is so long!) ♥
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i think that you should just tell him that if he doesnt like you like that and doesnt trust you then whats the point in waiting around for something that is never going to happen
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I think that if there is no chance then why bother???? If he doesn't like you OR trust you then why bother to still like him? If you REALLY like the other life-gaurd then go for him instedad of Kevin. But if think you should still like him then go right ahead, if you still like him then why were you asking me??? (lol)
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hey. sounds to me like he likes you pretty bad. but he really doesnt want to get hurt. because he said he found you pretty attractive and basically easy to talk to, so he get's jealous easy because ther people can see that too.
that thing where you told your mates.. if you were like all YAY about it. then you're bound to tell your mates bout it.. its what girls do haha, just set him straight about that. in a compliment way so like add jokes in liek.. 'i wanted every one to no what an amazing guy you were, but words must hav gotten tangled.. liek the game chineese whispers or something' an liek sorry
its up to you what you want to do.
if you want to be with him, and you hav liked him for a long time then whats the harm in giving him all your attention. if YOU really think it has a chance.. only you can know..
but if you dont want to then.. dont hurt the guy by flirting with different people in front of him.. that hurts LOADS so yeh
good luck dude xx
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well, first you've got to ask yourself what you really want out of this. do you want to just focus on Kevin? nothing is worth anything if you don't fight for it. when he said "if you really liked me, you wouldn't do that," he basically meant that if you really liked him, you would keep trying to get to know him, get his trust back, etc. but i mean, c`mon, the guys are supposed to do the chasing. but back to the question, this final decision will be what you want out of this, it's your decision, not his. do you want to get him to like you? or do you want to get out and move on? but if you really want to make sure if you have no chance, you might want to have a serious talk to him about what your thoughts. if he's a decent guy, he'll understand. either way, i know you'll make the decision right for you. g`luck! (:
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