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My fiance's family is stressing me out . . .
I am 19 years old. I have a fiance (earnie) whom I have been with for over a year. I also have been living with him and his family for this long. Earnie's family consists of his mother, father, older sister, younger brother, and his cousin. I love his family and I appreciate everything they have done for me, however, I feel like I am a burden. In a recent argument Earnie's mother and brother were having his brother said that he did not like me, and it seems to me that his sister doesn't either. I don't know what I can do to make them like me. I have been as nice to them as I know how. I accept that not everyone will like me, but I really don't like feeling like a burden. What can I do about this? Or is this just a hopeless question?
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We all know that in-laws are always like this. They may not like you at first but they are going to have to learn to get along with you. Eventually they will come around and realize that you are family.
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You know sometimes you could be nice and they may still not like you,it also happens to other people,so since the brother doesn't like you just ignore him, and walk away.Your fiance should know so he could speak to them,that they should show you some respect,I always said that if they got nothing good to say they should keep it to themselves.They wouldn't like it if they had a partner,others disrespect their partner,especially there going to spend the rest of their life with them,and they'll just have to accept it whether they like it or not.
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its allright just help out more around the house. start being more polite. and try to have fun with earnies brother and sister. it will take time but they will grow into it.
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this is most definitely NOT a hopeless question. there are people out there that no matter what we do will not accept who we are and "hate" us, or as i like to say, dislike. we all feel like a burden sometimes, and it's really hard to overcome. but think about it, you won't be marrying his family! but you might want to talk to your fiance about this and that you feel like a burden. talk to him about your thoughts and since it is his family, he will certainly help you. after talking to your fiance, you might or might not want to address this issue to his family members. either way, don't give yourself too much pressure because of this! everything will work out, just give it time! (:
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