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getting a relative to move out!
Recently my brother-inlaw moved in with myself and my husband. I just got my last child out and now I had the guilt trip laid on me, "he lost his job, he lost his apartment...." So I relent even though the guy gives me the creeps, (he tried to kiss me once) It's been 3 weeks and my husband just doesn't seem to understand that I can't stand his brother! He's not looking for a job he isn't paying rent, And now I'm picking up after 2 men and only one of them I gladly do for. He show's his brother a completely different side than what I see, Granted he's a little slow in the head but come on. How do I get my husband to see that having him here is wrecking our marriage! We've not had .... in 3 weeks!!!!! HELP before I go insane!
I'm 40 years old and have been married for 22 years to the same guy but this is pushing the love....
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Relative Moving Out,
It is important that you fully communicate your concerns. If you are expecting your husband to be able to see the problems with his brother, you are setting yourself and your marriage up for problems. It is important that you don't consume yourself with frustration on the fact that the brother-in-law is still in your home. Instead, be proactive and take time to communicate with your husband your needs and your concerns. When communicating this and the concerns about the family member, make sure that there is no judgment made when speaking about your needs. If you feel that he is not understanding your request, then it may be beneficial to go to a counselor or mediator, so they can help the both of you to do what is best for you and your marriage. It is important that whatever decision is made concerning the brother-in-law, it needs to be a joint decision from you and your husband. Look at this situation as a chance for you and your husband to work together to do what is best for the family.
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Well if you feel this way about your brother in law, I think you have to talk to your husband about it. Communication is the key to solving problems. Even though you think you might hurt your husband's feelings or what not, I think that he'll appreciate you being honest with him. So i think you should talk to your husband about how you feel especially if your brother in law is creating problems between you and your husband. Anyways, I hope that all goes well! =]
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okay, this sounds like you me and dupree.
no offense, but you cannot alow someone to do that.
you simply give them a place to live, and shelter for the time being that they can get a job and a decent place to live. tell your husband what has happened about the trying to kiss you thing, before things get out of hand.
btw, communication is the most needed thing in a relationship i suggest you start talking more O:)
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