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me and my boyfriend fight quite alot, we have been going out for 5 and a half months now. And he always is saying our relationship is crapy. i dont want our relationship to be crappy. Mostly we fight because im a jealous person an dhe has alot of girls that are friends. Any advice on how to not care so much about all these girl friends of his. And any advice on how to stop fighting. And any advice on how to spice up our relationship alittle? Sorry its alot my i apreciate anything =) thanx muchly
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i think i can help you there my best friend is going out with my cousin and they've been going out for 8 months. they fight everyday and usually break up and then an hour later they get back together. so heres' the deal my best friend i jealous aswell and i helped her overcome that by letting her know that you need to trust him let him know that ya'll probably fight alot because your both jealous aswell as scared your jealous of these girls because you are afraid to loose him but maybe he doesn't know that so let him know you care and maybe you should ask him out and have a really nice night to yourselves but if u do so make eyecontact and don'e mention the other girls
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First of all, if u are a jealous person, it isnt going to just shut off overnight. It is going to take time. Maybe something happened when you were younger that prevents you from fully trusting or maybe you are self-conscious and you have low self-esteem. I dont know you so it is hard to say. But either way, if you cant find some sort of middle ground...ultimately, eventually your relationship will face its demise. If your bf is the flirty type, and you are the jealous type...this is like mixing oil and water. I would take a step back and take a look at who he is as a person and who you are. Can you see yourself fully trusting him ever? If not, i would move on. There are many types of people in this world and there is nothing wrong with you the way that you are. If he loves you, he will work with you on this. I think he needs to consider how you feel and him saying that your relationship is crappy isnt going to make you trust him any more than you do. If you can, sit him down and explain why you feel the way that you do. Then when all of the serious conversation is over tickle him to death. :)
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Hey,
First of all, this jealousy couldn't only be dealt with by trust. If you trust the person infront of you and actually believe in him,and believe that he loves you and wants you and not any of the other girls, then you wouldn't be jealous. Number one rule in any relationship is trust,and if its not there, then i am sorry, then your frienship is not only crappy, but it will never work out.
why didn't you ever think for a minute, that instead of being jealous, think that maybe your boyfriend loves you so much that he chose you over all those other girls that your jealous from.
You are a good person and i am sure that you have a great personality, so don't throw this all behind your back and give your boyfriend the idea that you are nothing but a jealous person.
You can care for him and be afraid to lose him, but don't be jealous of him.
On the other hand, about the advice on how on how to spice up your relationship which will lead to you guys to stop fighting, is that you can simply show him the good side of you and your personality, because you know and i know, that you are not only a jealous person, but that you are caring and loving and sweet and lots of fun. so why don't you try hanging out more with him,and talking to him about the things he likes to talk about,and maybe you could do something special for him, and get him something that he wants and would like so much, and show him that your fun and try to change a little of your character and be a little hyper active and spend your time loving him instead of feeling jealous, and show him all that, and show him that you changed,and kiss him and make out with him if he thinks thats the thing that would make your relationship better.
So try to make things a little better from your side, and i am sure that he will cooperate, and it will all be bette when you get rid of this jealousy feeling. So consider what i said, and if you need any further advice, then please be free to contact me.
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