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ok im 13/f/canada and i had sex like last week and we were completly safe and i thought i loved him but he hasnt called since and i just got back from cheer camp (im a cheerleader) and i met this awsome guy and he asked me out and now we r together but i still haveing feeling for the guy that i had sex with like should i stay with the guy im with or go back to the guy i lost my virginity to? plez hhelp me!
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1st of all you will always probably have feelings for the guy you lost your virginity to but if he hasnt tried calling you then hes pretty sorry most teen guys only care about getting you in bed and to me it sounds like that may b exactly what was on his mind gaurd yourself when you want to do it thats when you should do it dont ever just give in because he wants it you have to b ready
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Why is it you feel like you have to be with someone. At 13 you have so many important things going on. I have found that when a 13 year old is having sex it is usually an attempt to make up for something she feels like she is missing in her life. You can't make a guy love or even like you by having sex. This is the quickest way to get him to lose respect for you. You need to learn guys love sleeping with girls but they don't like to be with girls in a romantic relationship if the girl has a reputation for sleeping around. If you start having sex at 13 then what is it going to take to give you a thrill at 23? Personally as a person who used to work as a Biologist I know there is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. If a condom is only 80 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and a female can only get pregnant a couple of days out of a month then the odds of a condom failing and allowing HIV or Hepatitis through are way higher. You take great risks to both your health and mental well being when you become sexually active at a young age. You really need to rethink what is important in your life (if it is a boy who is important at this stage in your life) then you have some pretty serious problems. I can count on one finger the number of people I know who are with their boyfriend they had when they were 13. When you sleep with someone you give them a part of yourself you can never take back. At 13 I don't know of a single guy who is worth this gift. They are just in it for fun, don't become a plaything. If you continue acting in the way you are acting now this is the reputation you are going to get and finding a wonderful lasting relationship when you get older will be much more difficult. You don't want to be a teen mother without a husband and on welfare when you are 15. You really need to think about the future long term consequences of your actions. You will be far happier in the long run if you do.
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I think that you should stay with the guy you are with because he hasnt it called
I anit trying to be mean but it seems like you were a booty call
that almost happen to me
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awwww honey...im sorry to say this, but...the guy you had sex with used you. its not for sure but thats what im thinkin. If he hasnt called then i take that as a sign to move on...so i say you should move on to that hot cheerleader =D hehe xoxo. have fun and stay safe!
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well i'm 13 too and clearly if the guy hasn't called you back he had the wrong intentions while having sex with you. you're probably a beautiful girl..but guys just think in weird ways. most likely having SEX with a guy at 13 you think you love him..but meeting a new guy is best and just see if you can move on and forget about this other guy that you THINK you love, but maybe it's just sexual lust that you're feeling :) hope i helped
xox,taylor
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