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hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my mom says that I can't go to a boys house or have a boy over my house even when she's home she says iam way to young for that,but she let my sisters have boyfriends over and have them over when they were only 15.I think the reason could be becouse I have attention deffesince disorder(add).do you think that could be the reason and how do I convince her that iam responsible enough to go to boys houses and have them over mine.Iam in special ed to could that be another reason?
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I think you should definitely discuss with your mother why she is making this rule. It could be that she has changed her mind since your other sisters, or it could be because she is more protective of you. Either way you'll only know the reason if you ask her.
You could start by making her comfortable with boys around when she is home. Perhaps invite a male friend to dinner, that way she can be around almost the whole time and can get to know them.
I have to say though, I am twenty-one and my mother still wont let me have boys over when she is not home and wont let me be in a room with a boy with the door closed. (Luckily for me I don't live in her house all the time.) Those are just her rules. They are a little silly, but it's her house and her rules. Sometimes we just have to respect our parents' rules because they are our parents, not because their rules make any sense.
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Dear,Rachel Your mom may be concerned about you remember your mom was a teen too once and she probably had some bad experiances...i don't think that there would be a problem if he came over to your house but that's just me..the best advice would be is you can't always convince parents to give in to what you want..try to have a heart to heart conversation with her and also with your boyfriend or the guy you like...once you step into a guys house your steping into thier territory..it can be scary for your mom since your 17 remember boys can't be trusted they are out for only one thing too...i don't belive being in speacial ed is why your mom's concerned...as i said talk to to her and see what happens, good luck to ya. Your friend Violet
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heyy. if you want an arguement to give her then you could just plainly say: "mom, people shouldn't treat me different just because i am in special ed and have add. but because you are treating me different than my sisters you are giving me the impression that it is ok for people to treat me differently." that is all you have to say to get the sting out on what she is doing. but don't yell it, just plainly say it, like it a dinner or something, and just get up and plainly, quietly, walk away, and go into your room. hope i helped =]]]
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Yes, I do believe she doesn`t feel like you will be responsible enough too. Maybe you can try to see if she will just give you a chance of responsibility. It could also be because your sisters might have done a few mistakes in the past and it got ruined for you. But, just try to ask your mom if she will let you have one boy over and let her get to know him first and see how the situation is handeled. ♥
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