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Lately, it have been so much going through my head. I need some advice on my boyfriend. We started off as friends, then realized that we really liked eachother and decided to take the next step. Everything was all fine when we first got together for a minute, I thought he was the one. Time passed, and a year later I ended up pregnant. It was a shock to both of us but I coun't see myself aborting, so I kept it. He later lost his job. Now you would think that he could have got another job being that he has a child on the way! I started to get a little upset at that because I couldn't really work anymore. He ended getting a job right before our child was born. The sad thing is that his job is a on call job, so if they don't need him, then they won't call. That's bad because with a new baby, someone needs a steady job. To fast forward he now has been going through panic attacks, and all he been doing is think negative, he barely works, he's not meeting any goals, he still lives with his mom, don't have a car etc.... I'm starting to fell like there's too much pressure on me because I'm starting to feel like I'm going to have to take care him soon completely as well as taking care of my baby. I know for sure that I didn't want this kind of life, it seems like the best thing out of it is my child. I love him dearly with all my heart, and I know that he would go crazy if I left, but how much more can I take? I'm still trying work and finish college, he keeps saying he's going to this and that, but nothing is happening. It's almost like he's handycap..I'm just too young to be taking on his problems that really shouldn't be a problem...am i wrong for saying this?
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No, your not rong for saying that he helped make the baby so he should help take care of it to.
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Feelings are rarely 'wrong', you just need to be careful what you do about them.
You are right that you shouldn't be taking care of him or taking on his problems. I do sympathize with someone in his position; it's easy to find yourself lost and overwhelmed when you are young and have a child, but that isn't a good reason for you to be compromising yourself. Your babe is your first priority; don't give to him if it takes away from your child.
You might try speaking to his parents if you have a decent relationship with them. They might be willing to help him find counseling for his anxiety and help you to support and encourage him.
Try to separate yourself from his problems. Try not to be angry with him but lead by example and keep focusing on things that you can do, not the things you can't. If he drags you down or becomes an emotional burden don't be afraid to send him away or at very least stop trying to argue with him. Don't waste your energy, you need it.
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No, You're not wrong at all for saying this.
He should be helping you.
You shouldn't have to take care of the baby all by yourself.
Though I don't know all that much. I have a little sister. and I watch her all the time.
I know how babies are. You need more than one person.
You should try to talk to him,
try to get it through to him that you need help with this and if you don't get help then its not going to work.
Hope I helped a little.
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