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I like one of my best friends- not sure what to do
I'm a 15 yr. old guy and I've recently realized I like one of my best girl friends (Let's call her Rachel). She's a really nice girl-and at one of my friends parties last week, I told my other best friend that I liked Rachel, but I thought she liked someone else at the party (Let's call him Jamie). My friend wasn't sure, and she told me that she wouldn't tell Rachel or anyone else. I've been talking to her a lot on AIM, and I like her even more- but I'm not sure if I should make a move and ask her out, I'm afraid that my heart will be broken once again (already broken thrice by my friend I talked to at the party). Please help!
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WELL!! its not uncommon to like your best friend....however, you guys like you have a good thing going and maybe staying best friends and not advancing to a realtionship might help ure feelings for her. You see, a best friendship is way more stronger, and beneficial than moving to more...becuz if she does not like you back,things might be awkward which migh destroy the friendship anyway.....I want you to evalute you situation and figure out whether, you want a few week or months of love and no friendship when things end...OR, do you want a lifetime of a beautifuol thing
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Take a leap of faith, and thik about asking her out. Most BF/GF relationships start out in friendships 1st. For all you know, she might like you too, but is too scared to ask you out.
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If you really like Rachel then you should ask her out. If she turns you down and you 'get your heart broken' pick yourself up again and start over. You've never lived life until you've taken some chances! :)
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You should ask her out. The very worst thing that could happen is for her to say no. And that doesn't mean she'll say no six months from now if you asked her again!
Don't profess your true love for her or anything over the top like that. You'll probably scare her.
You don't have to ask her for a full blown "date" the first time out the gate... ask her if she'd like to go get ice cream, go to the mall, or the park or something sometime or something else where you two can sit together in a public place and talk. Girls love to talk, if you haven't noticed :-) AIM just isn't the same thing as face to face...
Keep it casual and without too much pressure or you might just scare her off. Just follow her lead and she'll let you know how to proceed.
Again, the worst she can do is say no. That doesn't mean you two can't still be friends, girls are used to guys asking them out. It also doesn't mean she doesn't like you, maybe she just wants to get to know you better. Stay cool and casual, don't pester her like a stalker, and maybe she'll say yes later.
Also, getting no for an answer when asking out a girl shouldn't constitute a broken heart- if it is for you, you're going to need coronary bypass surgery by the time you're 17! A truly broken heart is from having been in a relationship and having that relationship fall apart for some reason or another. You'll know it when you have it.
Anyway, good luck. Hope it all works out for you.
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well i kinda know what your goin thro because im going through the same thing with on of my best guy friends and i dont know if i should tell him or not... but any way the best thing would be just to come out and tell her how you fell about her and just say hey Rachel i wanted to tell you that i like you not just as a friend but more than a friend and if you dont feel the same way i would still like for us to be friends.. and ya man go for it make a move you just might get lucky hope she likes u back good luck dude
hope everything works out
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