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my friend
(f/15)
well my best friend and i have been friends for like 2 1/2 years. we usually get along suprisingly well and never fight, although we did get into some arguments and there are just little things she does that annoy me . i've tried to talk to her about it but she is frustratingly stubborn and wont see anything from anyone elses side but her own. she also makes it blantantly clear about the little things i do that annoy her and try to stop, but cant quite since they just happen involuntary. in the past week or so shes been acting weird and telling me differnet things, such as pointing out if i have acne on my face...which obviously isnt a huge self esteem booster. she told me i had gained weight since last WEEK, that i havet oo much fat on my stomach (which i know i dont because im 5"7 and only 115 lbs) and that i have too skinny of arms and man hands. i try talking to her about this but she freaks out and says it was a joke. it wasnt a joke...and if it was why didnt she laugh? why didnt i laugh? she didnt say it in an easygoing voice she said it matter of fact and i dont know what to do because i want to remain friends with her but the fact that she wont listen to me is really irritating.
i need to know what i should do.
thanks for anyone that answers :)
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Okay, yeah I have a friend sort of like this. I think that maybe the only reason why she is saying this stuff to you is because she is possibly offended by you and JEALOUS! Thats what girls do, we can be VICIOUS!
What you need to do is possibly sit down with her and tell her how you feel about what she is saying about you. Tell her you don't appreciate it, and its not the best friend thing to do! Tell her that if she keeps on doing this your just not going to hang out with her anymore. Scare her into stopping it. I hope I helped you out!! MUCH LOVE! Neelz
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I think you both have always had a strong friendship, but now it's time to settle down with being around this friend so much and try spending your time with another friend.
Your friend is being absolutely selfish and you need to say, "Hey, it really hurts my feelings that you have to go and let me know whether I have acne or if I've gained weight" And when she starts freaking out and says that she's joking, just say, "It's not a joke if you are the only one laughing" and then send her home or hang up with her if you're on the phone. Get away from her when she starts acting stupid. I'm sorry, but your friend knows eactly what she's doing and if you don't stand up and let her know that you don't tolerate that kind of treatment, then she'll always continue to think it's ok to put you down.
If she's not listening to you, don't listen to her. If she freaks out on you in a confrontation, then freak out on her when she does the confrontation. Give her a taste of her own medicine or just leave and let her know that you aren't sticking around to listen to it.
-TheTeenGirl
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My best friend can get the same way.
I enjoy writing poetry, so the last time she did it i wrote a poem about betrayal and she got the messege. i realize now that was a little harsh though.
She said the only reason she kept on joking was becaus I didn't say anything.
If flat out talkin won't work why don't you give her a taste of her own medicine once in a while?
And then afterwards laugh, so your not as harsh.
or tell her its just not funny to u, and as your friend can she just plz respect that.
i know that's not much but i hope it helped a little bit.
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