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friendships && guys. =/
one of my best friends (brylie) is convinced shes in love with this guy. hes rude && controlling... he always her friends we need to give them "more space" when in reality - they have all the "space" in the world. he wants them to be left alone at parties && such. and we've been doing that. he's not really that rude to brylie, he's extremely pushy towards me && the rest of her friends. she's constantly blowing us off for him && making us feel unwanted and unneeded. what can we do?
thanks. ((i'll deff rate you if the advice is good)) =]
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Talk to her, snap her back to reality. Also try being nice to her boyfriend. No matter how much you hate him now (I don't know if you hate no offence)if your nice to him he probably not be as pushy. Hope that helps.
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Sadly, this is usually a situation where you as the friend have little or no control. His behaviour sounds like it has the potential to bocome abusive. Abusers usually start off with behaviour that "appears" fairly harmeless, ie. being controlling and demanding that she see her friends less. However, it will almost always lead to scarier behaviour such as physical abuse.
I recommend that you sit your friend down and lovingly share your concerns with her, explaining that your are worried about her well-being. Perhaps, show her this email. You may want to suggest that she read a book on the subject, such as "Women Who Love Too Much" by Nancy Friday.
I would have this conversation only once then it is up to her to make her own decission about the relationship. Otherwise, you will only end up driving yourself crazy because you can't make up another's mind for them. It is very likely that she will continue to distance herself from her friends, which is ultimately her choice. He clearly already has his hooks in pretty deep. Sadly, when a women decides to stay in a relationship because she "loves" him and she beleives she can change him (yeah, right), not even close friends can seperate that unhealthy tie. This means that you will probably loose your friend to him for a while but when it is over, she will return to her friends again and hopefully with new wisdom about relationships.
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well the best you can do is just give all the advice you can.. if she doesnt take it then its fine. just wait they wont last forever and sooner or later she will realize you guys are right. you have to understand she likes him so shes gunna think hes just the greatest guy ever.. when really friends know best. My best friend will do the same thing. she wont listen to me.. and then in the end shes like "geeze amanada your always right.. yet i never listen" its just how stubborn us girls can be. Try and just understand too where shes coming from. Just be understanding dispite how unwanted and unneeded you may be okay (:
good luck! things will turn around.. all you need to do is give it time.
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