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call him or not?
ok well, this is kind of a retarded question but ill rate 5's for honest answers.
so i was talking to my friend bob on the phone and he told me to three way my bf mike and so pretty much they did ALL the talking and left me out of everything. then I was like "well, im leaving" and hung up. then mike called back and was all like "hey whats up? when you hung up it hung up on both of us so ya" and then i was like "call him back" and he was like "i dont want to" then bob called on the other line and mike was like "ok thats him" and then we said goodbye to eachother. now its been about 15 minutes now and i miss him and i want to talk to him but at the same time i dont want to let my guard down. as you can see im a very stubern person. anywho should i call him back or let him talk to bob? and also sometimes i feel as if im the only one that cares about "us" and i want to talk to him about it but i dont know how...any sugestions??? thnks sooo much!
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Humm, I've had this a couple of times myself. I personally think it gets easier as you get older. But what I do is think 'Well, I know he wants to talk to the other guy, so I'm going to go re-arrange my books/ re-design my website/ go for a walk [etc] for an hour or so and then when I come back I'll call him and make him pay attention to me.'
If you ever got into that sort of situation again, then you should try asserting yourself in the conversation. For example, if my boy and someone else are talking about, say, computer games, I wait for a break in the conversation and interject with something like, 'oh that game reminds me of a book a read, it was a really cool book'. Or try asking a question about said game or something related like graphics cards.
As for the whole talking about 'us' thing. Find a time when you can be alone in a relaxing place, and broach your fears and explain your feelings. I know that guys tend to not care as much as girls do, but it's still a good idea to try and get him to understand. However, it's always been my experience that he'll either say 'I don't know what you're talking about, we're fine' in which case it might be a good idea to relax and trust he's right, or he'll say 'yeah I see what you mean/ I've been feeling like that too/ I'm sorry' sort of thing, in which case it's probably a good idea to talk about it and suggest ways that he can make you feel better or that you can get to spend moretime together or something.
I hope some of this has helped :) [And good luck ;)]
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thats a typical guy for you. just be glad he isnt obbsessive over you and HAS to talk to you 24/7. let him do his guy thing n talk to bob. he'll call you. if he doesnt call him. theres no reason to even put up a guard its just a phone call. plus most girls care more than guys do, and guys should care but once they get to a certian age they will.. dont even worry, dont be mad at him. yet if this is ALWAYS happening then tell him. hes your bf he best be understanding. (: good luck girlie.
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