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boyfriend dumped me bc of religion.
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my boyfriend & i had been together for almost 2 months. i really had strong feelings towards him. he always treated me right, i knew he was the one.
he broke up with me today and his reason was because he's looking for a girl whose a "woman of god" & that isn't me. he called me back about 3 hours after he broke up with me, and said that he had talked to his best friend & he heard a song that reminded him of me. & he wouldn't know how to go on without me. also that my religion doesnt really matter right now we just have to live each day by itself.
now he wants me back. but ive talked to my mom & sister about this already and they both said i shouldnt get back with him.
i really like him, i might even love him. do you think that me taking him back would be completely bad?
please help.
thanks a lot.
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You need to a talk to him and explain that you were heartbroken when he dumped you because of your religion. Tell him that he always looked for more in him than god and you thought he felt the same way. Tell him that if he wants you back, he has to keep you. Have him swear that if you two break up, it won't be because of religious differences (if he's truly god's boy, he'll stick to it). Lastly, watch yourself and be weary. If you see strange signs of him acting up again, be alert. Your heart is in your hands now. Don't be twice fooled.
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It really all depends on how you feel about him. I think that if he broke up with you for "not being a woman of God", then he isn't worth it, even when he comes crawling back. However, if you think that you love him you should talk to him and see if you ahve makea comprimise that religion shouldn't matter or that you guys wont let it get in the way of your relationship. You could always try to go out with him again and see how it goes but tell him that it hurt you when he dumped you for that reason.
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In reference to another answer, sometimes religion does matter. Although some people can overlook the differences, others cannot. He is obviously struggling with those differences. It is best to come to terms with this before a long term committment to each other.
I'd say if you can work out an agreement regarding your religious belief systems then it would be okay to take him back.
If you sense that he is not completely comfortable with your religion and neither of you are willing to convert, then this might be an indication of future problems and your Mom and Sister may just be right
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religion should not have anything to do with a relationship.. so you have different religious beliefs, it doesn't mean the relationship won't go well. A buddhist can be in a relationship with a christian if he wanted to. An atheist can marry a mormom -- either way it should not matter. try talking it through with him. and maybe get into the religion with him a little bit (it's your choice), and see if it will all work out.
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You're young. There's plenty of time to find guys, you don't have to stick to one. Just forget about him and find a "guy not of God" and everything should be find.
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