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~*I'm 15 And Depressed*~
I am 15 years old. I have been struggling with my weight ... I know im not fat or anything but my stomach is kind of chubby. I Don't know what kind of diets or workouts work for that but it has been getting me really upset. I have been going through alot and im on depression medeication and with my stomach looking like this, it is not helping me any. also my aunt calls me fat and that she is smaller than me, but even though i know that she is NOT smaller than me it still upsets me really badly. what do you think i should do about my stomach weight?please help me
sorry so long
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Well, one thing that might make you feel emotionally better would be talking to a counsellor. Medication is great and definitely has its place, but the additional support of having your own space to just be, think, and express yourself can really make a difference.
Next, you say you aren't fat, but that your stomach is just a bit chubby. Did you know that a woman's body is designed to have a bit of extra fat on the tummy? If you got too skinny, you might be unable to have a baby.
The media is really good at flashing around stick-thin women and using them as role models of how everyone should be. People begin to believe this and then push their views on others. The simple truth that is if you are eating right, exercising, and healthy you are probably the perfect size for you.
Your doctor would be able to tell you if you were a healthy size. If you did need to lose a bit of weight she/he would be able to offer suggestions on healthy eating. You could also find an activity that you would enjoy - not only would this help your fitness, but regular exercise can also affect your moods. Take a tap dancing class, learn to bellydance, go rollerblading - whatever sounds fun to you.
Finally, have you told your aunt how badly she makes you feel? If you say something like, 'Aunt _______, I just wanted to be honest with you about something because your opinion means a lot to me. When you call me fat, it makes me feel really ___________ and ____________.' If she's sensitive at all, perhaps this will help her think before she opens her mouth and makes hurtful comments in the future.
Of course, if she does, you can't control that. All you can control is how you react in response to what she says. Right now you're giving her your power - you're allowing her to make you feel bad. In reality, you can choose to confront her, ignore her, or talk to someone who is more supportive and understanding.
Best of luck learning to love your body. It's an amazing thing, whatever the shape. It lets you breathe, run, laugh, cry, exist.
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