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A few months ago (Joanne's sister who is 54 years old), their Mom and Joanne (who is
50 years old) were in a car driving somewhere.
STORY:
Joanne's mother said "Joanne I am afraid of taking you to the party because I am afraid you would read in to anything someone might say."
Joanne said: "Explain."
The Mom said "Well if someone came up to you and said you are so thin, you would take it to mean you weren't thin before."
Joanne said "Well doesn't it mean that."
The Mom said "No it doesn't mean that it just means you were always thin but now you are
extremely thin."
Peggy said "Joanne you were ALWAYS skinny, if someone says to you that you are so thin, it
just means you were ALWAYS thin but now you are even thinner. As I said you were always thin.
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Here are the other remarks that Joanne's mother has said that bothers Joanne and makes Joanne feel as if her mother doesn't think that people think Joanne is thin:
(a) Why do you need people to tell you that you are thin - you know you are thin (this was when Joanne and her mom had a conversation about Joanne taking poles)
(b) What do you care what people think? Who gives a shit
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Joanne told her friends what bothers her is that she feels as if her mother doesn't think friends
and relatives of Joanne's and her mothers ever thought Joanne was thin in the past and present. Her friends all responded "That is crazy, (a) your mother just feels that you overreact and read into what someone says; and (b) you should accept that your mother knows that everyone in the past and present always thought you are thin."
My question: Do you agree with Joanne's friends that (a) Joanne's mother just feels that Joanne
overreacts and reads into what someone says; and (b) Joanne should accept that her mother knows that everyone in the past and present always thought Joanne is thin?
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Hello there,
I would take it as Joanne has really low self esteem.
I would take it that Joanne has a history of punishing people for telling the truth.
I would take it that Joanne is probably so skinny that her mother is afraid she will die, and that she looks like a cancer victim to people.
I would take it that at 50 Joanne needs to grow up.
If by 50, Joanne doesn't know better than to pull this kind of pity-party bullshit with her friends and mother, it is only by the grace of God that the people you are giving a hard time in this question even put up with Joanne.
At 15, in this society, I can see this conversation happening... at 50 it is pathetic.
Joanne should try getting her mind off herself by doing something for others.
Try volunteering to feed the homeless.
Try Delivering meals to house bound elderly people.
Try looking past yourself to see that what you are worried about is basically the least important thing on Earth.
Nobody cares about your weight but you.
If people are afraid to take you places because you will be told you look thin... it means you look sickly. Unhealthy, as in wasting away.
If you are 50, and haven't figured this out yet... I strongly suggest you seek professional help.
I am not being mean, and I am not kidding. If you can't figure this out at your age, there is something standing in the way of your ability to comprehend what is really going on in the world.
Please get help.
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