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Hey, you give great advice. That's why I'm asking you instead of posting this for everyone.
Here's my story. My roommate who is 19 (I'm 17) has been in a relationship with this guy Aaron for about 4-5 months. I just met his younger brother Trent (who is the same age as me) about a month ago. We got to know eachother, and he'd come over with Aaron and we'd all hang out and do whatever. Well one night my room-mate and her boyfriend went to bed and I was hanging out with Trent. One thing led to another and we had sex. This was about a week and a half ago. I don't know what I feel, because I've never "just had sex" with someone before. The only other person I had sex with was my boyfriend of 3 years, we broke up about 6 months ago. Back to Trent though, since we had sex it's been weird. We've only talked on the phone a few times since then and he's only been over here twice since then, when usually he'd come like 3-4 times a week. That's my fault though, sometimes I'll tell Aaron to "not let" him come with him here. I just feel weird. I know he DID have feelings for me though, because he told Aaron he did. I also heard that he just got a new girlfriend, like a few days ago. WTH. I still like him, a lot.
Just today my room-mate/bestfriend broke up with Aaron. I'm not sure if this is the end or if they'll get back together (they break up and get back together a lot) but I heard their fight today and it was soo NASTY. It WAS BAD. So this could be the end of their relationship, hard to tell. Not to sound selfish, but if they're over, what am I going to do about Trent? I don't even know exactly what I'm really asking, but can I have your opinion on all of this and what I should do?
Another thing, the boyfriend I told you about, the one I havent spoken to in 6 months has been calling me. He was my first and only love, there's a reason why we broke up so I don't know if I should give that another chance. It's safe though, in a way. I don't know.
I know my thoughts are pretty scattered. I'm confused. Sorry it's so long.. please help me..
"K"
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Firstly, thank you for asking me, I'd be honored to answer your question and give you my opinions on this.
Here's what I think happened: You were with this boyfriend for 3 years and just broke up 6 months ago. That is definetly not enough time to drain all of those feelings out and be with someone else. You probably had a lot of mixed feelings from this break-up and wanted to get rid of those feelings by getting with someone else. Honestly, I think you don't have strong feelings at all for Trent. You probably needed to feel loved and wanted by someone else since you weren't getting that for 6 months.
And let's say that you were over this boyfriend of 3 years and had true feelings for Trent: It sounds like Trent wanted the one thing you had given him so quickly after you met him. He hasn't been visiting as often, and you just found out that he's starting a relationship with someone else! That's horrid.
No matter what the situaion may be, you aren't over this guy of 3 years. Unfortunatly, it's going to be a long time before you actually are over this guy. Especially if he's your first love and you were sexually involved with him.
I think what you have to do is decide whether or not you want what you had with this guy of 3 years back or if you want to take a lot of time getting over him and then starting over with someone else when you're actually ready. I'm not sure what it is that caused you both to break-up in the first place, but you have to decide if it's forgivable or if you'll be able to handle it.
If you have anymore questions concerning this situation, please write back. Thank you.
-TheTeenGirl
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