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my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I have been going swimming every day for severl weeks now and Iam starting to get tired of it,but when I try to tell my cousins no I don't want to go swimming my cousin who is 13 and is perfectly normal by the way uses my cousin who is autistic and is 15 by the way to say please rachel go swimming with us and I don't have the heart to tell him no how can I tell my cousins no I don't want to go swimming without them getting mad at me when my cousin who is 13 uses my other cousin who is autistic to get me to go swimming with them?
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Autistic people tend to like routine, so doing the same thing on a regular basis is often very comforting for them. The problem is that you will inevitably stop going swimming one day, and the further into the future that day is, the harder it will be for you cousin.
Don't just desert them, but try to find other stuff for you all to do together and perhaps make these things less regular than the swimming. That way everybody wins.
Obviously, this is just my opinion, and it could be complete nonsense. After all, I've never met you cousins. It's certainly a convincing argument though! Use it - it's yours.
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Suggest you do something else. Instead of going swimming, say "hey guys, what if we go out for ice cream today!" Or go bowling, get a bunch of other kids and play tag in the sprinklers (I'm 16 and I STILL do that), play basketball, go to the mall, the zoo, etc. Just suggest anything else they might be interested in.
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