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my wife
hello violet. i am manish from india ,36 male going throug a tuff time in my life as last month my wife went to her parents n its almost 15 days she refused to come back.she had a litle hot debate with me on some silly matterbefore leaving.she used to go like this often in past also. well i like to know from u that wjhats best to prevent her doing this again n coming back to me. though let me tell u that i loves her like anything but some problems with her that she not ready to understands .
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To be honest Manish, I sometimes do the same thing myself when I have a falling out with my boyfriend. What drives me(personally) to do it is the lack of communication, of understanding...If I am not understood and it looks like my boyfriend is making my points completely invalid, I get disgusted and stop trying.
Your wife needs to feel understood by you. What you thought of as silly might have been something very important for her. Try to see her points, no matter how much you feel the need to be right. If your wife feels understood, it's more likely she will not take off to her parents for weeks at a time(which I might add...Is a bit silly on her end. She also needs to realize running away constantly solves NOTHING..But who am I to say anything, I've done it myself).
You need to approach your issues with her in a calm way, one that doesn't point fingers or accuse. Take this time that she's gone to perhaps make a list of some sorts of the problems you two are having, and what can be done to resolve them. Pay attention to your words, make sure they are not sharp. It is not sometimes what we say, but how we say it.
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