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boyfriend troubles
Ok, so I have a boyfriend and I really, really like him. There's only one problem...I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16. I'm not really sure if just haning out at school is considered dating or not. Plus, I always feel embarrassed having a boyfirend, or guilty because I'm not supposed to. I really don't know what to do. My mom knows we're "going out" if you could call it that since we don't really do anything together since, well, I can't date. My sister doesn't have a problem "dating" a guy before 16 but I do. What should I do?
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I don't see anything wrong with waiting. I myself personally have the same rule but i'm not going to stop hanging out and having fun with a guy. Hey, if its meant to be nothing will stop that but it's all up to you. Are you ready for the complexities involved in a relationship? Would dating him be any different from what you are doing now? In my mind a good boyfriend is a good FRIEND first and foremost.
And one other thing, i don't know what kind of person your mom is but she sound okay. Let her in on what your feeling and maybe she may have some info tha may help.
I hope this helps.
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Well i have the same rule and i think if you just talk to your mom shell consider it shelll just need a little time to think about it so if she says ill think about it wait until shes done maybe you can compromise and if she says you can date but you just cant go out ask if you can in big or medium sized groups
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Your guilty feelings are normal. They are good and bad in ways.
They are bad obviously because it's like you can't seem to feel happy or excited, those feelings just overlay that. But mostly they are good because you know you are going against something and it's your way of telling yourself that something isn't right.
Dating is basically when you go out to the movies or go out anywhere nice or special with just the two of you. So, you should try talking to your parents about what their bounderies are when it comes to guys. Ask them if it's ok to just be boyfriend and girlfriend, but not go out on dates. Try setting the record straight with them because this sounds a little bit like a misunderstanding.
If it turns out that your parents don't want you to have a boyfriend period, then it's up to you whether you want to keep having these guilty feelings up until you're sixteen or try having fun with friends and family and then date when you are sixteen. My suggestion would be to wait. Not because your parents want it that way, but you've got plenty of time to date later on and for now your time should be spent being a girl with her friends.
-TheTeenGirl
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hmm well i dont wanna be the bad guy here and tell you to lie to your parents or..go against their will but i'll give you advice based on what i would do (which is go behind their backs :-X)
so for me..i'm in a long distance relationship, for over a year actually and its going GREAT! its the best reltionship i've ever been in. because of the whole..distance thing, we obviously cant go out on dates either but you dont need to DATE to have a relationship with him. if you really like this guy and want to be with him, just hang out with him at school or in groups with friends and talk to him on the phone or something at night. i know its hard but it could be worth it and you can make it work. i have :]
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you guys can still be good friends & not exactly "dating". you guys can do the same things. hang out, go places, etc etc. & juss not do that with anyone else. if you do that until you're 16, then after that you can juss call each other "bf & gf". if not, then maybe you should wait until you're older.
-hope that helped!♥
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