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how do i get over her?
ijust broke up with ny girlfriend 1 month ago im aboutto be 20 and she took all my friends with her and even worse she goes out telling everyone that i was the worst that i took advantage of her that i never appreciated her when in the end ill do everything to keep her happy and all she would do is complain now she moved out of her parents house and is not doing anything with her life and i feel bad because this was the girl i wanted to maryry now im left with a brokenheart and regret i need someones help im really depressed i know every one says ill move on but it doesnt seem that way so far because i knew for sure that she was was my soulmate but in the end i turned to be wrong she was too high maintenece i though it was normal but well im hoping someone can help
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YEAH I KNO HOW YOU FEEL... I HAD A SIMILAR SITUATION BUT MY B/F WASSNT HIGH MATIENCE HE WAS JUST AN ASS.. BUT YEAH I MEAN ITS HARD BUT ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS FIND SOMEONE THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU AND WHO LOVES YOU FOR YOU AND YOUR REALLY COMPATABLE WITH AND YOU WILL BE SO MUCH HAPPIER..
OR YOU COULD TRY TO TALK TO HER IF YOU REALLY FEEL SO ATTACHED AND MYABE U CAN WORK IT OUT IT JUST DEPENDS..
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wow i kinda feel the same way.. i don't think i can answer this question because if i could i could solve my own problem. i know i'm not going to move on because i know me and this guy are supposed to be together ya know?
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hey! ok first of all, it's normal that you are still not over her... i tell everyone this, but it takes about 2 months of not talking to or seeing someone to completely get over them. it could take a little more time or a little less time, it depends. but it is important not to communicate with her so that you can get her off your mind and move on.
you are sad about what happened, but at the same time in your question it seems that you are a bit relieved. you say that she is too high maintainance... meaning you actually had to do a lot of work to keep her happy. that may be ok for some people, but the fact that you say she is ungrateful makes it NOT ok. she is going around bad mouthing you for 2 possible reasons: one is that she really doesn't appreciate anything you (or anyone else) has done for her, and two, she could be doing that to help herself get over you... because even though she broke up with you, there are still feelings there i'm sure. if you are doing all this work for someone to make them happy and they don't aknowledge it, then why even waste your time? when you do something nice for someone, they return the favor down the road... if she doesn't even realize that you are doing her favors, she will never give you anything in return... which is what a relationship is all about, give and take!
lastly, you say that she is going nowhere with her life. there is another thing to think about to help you get over her. do you have a life path planned out for yourself, and are you doing things to help achieve your goals? if you do, then that's great, and if you don't, take advantage of the fact that you are "free" to start working on your future. if she has nothing to bring to the table, why stress over the fact that it's over?
all you need to do... and really all you can do is change your attitude about the whole situation. you have to believe that you will get over this in order to start getting over it and move on. all it takes is time and faith... everyone goes through hard times, and now it's your time. just get it over with and it will make you a stronger person in the end. don't waste time sitting around being depressed. every minute you spend sad and lonely is a minute you will never get back. go out, enjoy life, see what the single life has to offer and find a new girl along the way that will appreciate everything you do for her! you deserve it! :)
lastly, she might come back soon and try to get back together with you, but if you are almost over her then i wouldn't reccomend getting back with her. it's normal that she might regret her decision, but if you go back to her she will feel in control and will treat you even worse knowing that you will forgive her. like i said, you don't sound too happy about her in your question, and if she broke up with you once there was a reason for it and she might do it again. then you will be hurt again and have to start all over trying to get over her. so avoid her at all costs, and one day soon you will wake up and won't even remember her name! :) let me know if you need more help, and sorry it was soo long!
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